Well that’s a heart –rending 20th century, when everybody is trying out their hands on some amazing gadgets from a 2 year kid to 80 year old, with some incredible innovation going across, it still answers as “yes” to the question if Laundry /household chores are the tasks of women? Well that’s the ugliness of mindset in lovely Indians even today. I do acknowledge the fact that I was born in a typical family with a “gender equality” outlook ,where I did see my dad & uncle working in kitchen to clean the dishes ,leave Laundry ,which seemed to be their favourite time pass twice a week;) ,but the surroundings differed drastically from our family . I could always see aunties in neighbourhood brushing thoroughly kids dresses ,ironing them ,polishing their shoes ,cleaning the house ,which actually made me question my mom when I was in class V.. “Ma ,why in every house, all aunties do these chores while men just sit in the garden sipping cup of tea & reading papers ,is only women responsible for kids & house? “& an amazing answer I received.. “Just wait for next 10 -15 more years & you’ll see vice versa all around” .My mom was working since I was born & dad had to help to her out in every chore so as to main a harmony & share off the load..They both were a perfect role model for me.
Years passed on & I was married…Well marriage was a knock on my class V question, wherein there was a perfect demarcation of women doing household chores & men relaxing & earning money..That was absolutely hard to digest then & even now since nothing has changed ,it’s this mindset in India which has led to a scintillating figures by a survey conducted by third party for Ariel which revealed the below stats : Its really astonishing for a developing country like India & needs immediate change of thoughts in the budding trees !
Just sharing a hilarious conversation with my friend.. “My wifey asked me to do the laundry but my luck had it, I found another pair of underwear to survive a day moreJ”
Well gentlemen, This is a washing Machine…much easier to operate than Video game or may be X-Box, just pressing of few buttons with some commonsense will work outJ Try out once & I can guarantee you won’t die …Neither do you have to leave the remote /keep your eyes off the match for long, nor do your friends need to know of the newly developed skillJ
What we wish to achieve is Gender Equality; Men can do the laundry, they can even cook, they can stay at home & nurture the babies, who say’s they can’t? Women can pay for their bills, they can propose a boy, they can be CEO of a company, they can go all in Olympics & be what a man can be…It’s just a matter & game of mindset & willingness to opt for feminine role & excel in it J .Women are not born working their house hold chores but they are trained, so can men get trained, if their parents wish to make them master of all instead of feeding them till throat & asking them to relax & gain kilos ;)!
Guys, isn’t it a perfect time to break upon all the deeply rooted stereotypes in our minds? If women can multitask & excel in all fields why can’t these gentlemen prove & have a sense of sharing the load? Leave the older generation who won’t agree & arrest all our thoughts of seeing their boys work, but don’t leave them in blind fold with these “labels” .Yes being a working women & a wife to an amazing person ,seeing me work all the time has changed his outlook & he is always by my side helping me out in all things ,be it laundry or cleaning dishes or any house hold task ..It’s such a feel good sense to have such a partner who believes in supporting you, who wish to see you happy & not engrossed in these daily tasks..It’s our generation who need to read these lines & change these statistics .It’s not just we wish to realign ourselves ,it’s our moral responsibility to inculcate these values in our kids minds from the beginning.
Kids learn & do what they see, so be a role model to them, give them the right values of “Gender Equality” ,make them hands on to do laundry when you are occupied, let your boys clean their dishes only , let them tidy their rooms ,make them a responsible citizen of a growing nation. Let them not take the bun , sit & relax but ask them to share the pie ,that’s what I saw in my paternal home #ShareTheLoad .Sharing is a way of caring ,to more you share ,the more you care ,educate the boys in all these tasks to ensure a secure & happy future for them.
World is progressing fast & so is India changing, it’ll be a setback if these things remain un-catered. Vouch on; it’ll be no biasness but neutrality you’ll be driving!