Parenting and womanhood site

Hey fellow readers, this post is all about a new site launched- www.mommyinme.com

www.mommyinme.com

“Something provoked …Was it the curious mommy’s besides full of questions & tips to be shared? Or her panache for the ever smiling munchkins which got her here? She feels guess her life is to write & share, on Parenting, Motherhood & Woman – relations.

There is so much to be spoken yet, so much to create awareness on. The society is opening up to accept & come forward & that’s why this website is here.”

What to expect : Growing day by day with all the love & support of moms & dads, this is an interesting site. For to-be-parents, parents, fellow community friends who wish to read some interesting stories full of love, emotions apart from being true. Their publishing directory is expanding very rapidly. It’s been less than a month of launch & they’ve some amazing articles in their kitty.

A) Positive Parenting Tips : From pre-pregnancy woes to tips & lots of personal experiences to raise an infant positively, you’ll find many articles of your interest from new born to 10year old. And, they inform that they are rapidly putting up the posts, to cover the complete niche. Summers are here & so is their Summer vacation Extravaganza series running up, have a stroll to find out some great crafts for your kids this season.!

They quote – 

“Parenting and specially Motherhood is indeed a knotty affair overflowing with the warmth and emotions 24X7. The trail to being “Exceptional” in this task is an uphill task. So why not stop rating ourselves and practice “What makes us and baby Joyous”. The modes may sometimes have  a howling impact and sometimes have a contended effect overnight but let’s regain that patience to have a long term Positive impact on our baby.

Overloaded with ample questions and arguments? Figuring out a solution between granny’s and doctors advice? Go on mom’s, ponder all the categories here, you’ll certainly get what you wish for. And if not, share us the topic you wish to be covered & there you’ll sail with us.”

Don’t you all find it convincing to give it a try?

B) Womanhood – Stories, real experiences, Poetry: Further, being a woman myself, I’ve loved womanhood. The strength, challenges & love which a woman has, is commendable. You can find lot many true & fictional stories, poetries under “ Personal touch” section which many women will relate to. Some stories will even bring the tears to roll down, I bet!

So here you go, follow the blog, let’s acknowledge Parenthood in a light, happy go lucky mode. 

Get set on some of the best reads :

Mother’s day is coming, why not catch on some really True, inspirational stories of moms!

http://www.mommyinme.com/moms-happy-mothers-day/

http://www.mommyinme.com/prerna-the-inspiration/

Love story & Poem:

http://www.mommyinme.com/when-avalanche-broke/

http://www.mommyinme.com/an-ode-for-swirling-life/

Summer Extravaganza:

http://www.mommyinme.com/popsicle-stick-crafts-for-kids/

http://www.mommyinme.com/5-kids-craft-ideas/

Learning:

http://www.mommyinme.com/kids-learn-to-rise-from-failures/

http://www.mommyinme.com/10-tips-for-money-management-in-kids/

http://www.mommyinme.com/swimming-for-kids-and-babies/

There are lots & lots more for you to interest upon. Just click www.mommyinme.com & get your space.

Dosti Yaari etc

” कौन होता है दोस्त? दोस्त वो जो बिन बुलाये आये, बेवजह सर खाए, जेब खाली करवाए, कभी सताए, कभी रुलाये, मगर हमेशा साथ निभाए.”  !!

So here comes tale of colleagues to friends to travel mates & then to one of the best friend  & finally to mommies.

You could find many friends on this earth but the grasp of true friends who are not just besides you in the happy times but there to second you every moment, whether good or bad are the true friends whom you back on forever.

Such is our friendship, which started from normal group washroom gossip from dresses to bosses to in-laws ;). It was indeed a very slow motion friendship moving ahead with having lunches together to playing Table tennis in free office time. Suddenly we cracked some familiarity with each other, from the basic nature to the end objectives of life, all seemed to match with each other. Good liasoning was the main factor which made us both close together.

Yes both of us were married by then, but suddenly my husband decided to make a move to another city & so I had to follow him. But moving away from each other never left us shattered, we continued our long gossips in whatever meager time we had.

Meeting each other had become difficult hence we thought to enhance our friendship circles & drove it by planning a quick getaway trip with our better-half’! As the luck would have it, both the males instantly got along with each other, rejoicing every bit of our journey from hiking to playing to swimming to rafting. Not even for a moment it felt that it was the first outing & meeting together. This was the point which actually strengthened our bond all the more.

There was no turning back; we all started having small trips together, enjoying each other’s company all the more.  I still remember it was in Jan’2014, evening 7 pm when all of a sudden both of us spoke instantly..”I’m expecting”.. What?? What?? Yes, OMG you too.. WOW, that was really brilliant, our minds & hearts were all in such synchronization & not to miss, both of us had nearly same dates, just 10-12 days of difference!

Our bond grew more close, sharing the baby bump pictures, caring more for each other, sharing our doctors conversations, what to eat, what not to.. Suddenly the world had changes so much, those are the months when you are at your maximum emotional turmoil’s & then it was I realized ours as a true friendship.. No grudges, No qualms, just understanding & caring for each other.

Delivery date was shivering me, it was she, who was herself in that mode but always encouraged me to be strong, to have the feeling of motherhood, to be positive & within the span of 15 days both of us gave birth to lovely boys, Arham & Arjun! It’s said that motherhood is a new birth for mother as well & indeed it was a re-birth of our friendship as well. If it brings out the other side of a woman in the form of compassion, love, tenderness it also brings us across numerous challenges & you know there needs to be a strong support apart from your family who understands you & I can proudly say that it was her for me!

It’s been 2 years now that our babies are in our lives, relations take a toll, but for us nothing has changed. We are yet the same pals who care for each other, still plan trips together with kids now, eat, laugh & play together. Life has become happier with you dear friend!

Dedicated to our friendship …”Jab life ho out of control, hoton to karke gol…Seeti baja ke bol…All is well”, we know we are & will be always together & till the time it remains , life will be always be in

“All is well” mode!

Thanks for the entire bouquet of love dear friend!

We all have some amazing friends in our lives, do check out the upcoming show on ZEE TV:” Yaaron Ki Baraat” (Vivo Smartphone presenting Yaaron Ki Baraat co-powered by Amazon.in and Brooke Bond Red Label) ,which will put celebrity friendships through many challenging & interesting tasks from 8th Oct at 8Pm!

Don’t miss the fun & chance to re-live your friendship!

Those Amazing 262 days

The wonderful quotation made me re-live amazing memories of close to 2-2.5 years back, yes those 9 months, the most special ones, when for the 1st time I established the fact that there was a life bubbling up in me!

Well, so different was that day, amidst the hush of life, when the purple line in the test suddenly got me in qualm..Dilemma on how my professional life would move ahead? Serious skepticism on how will I raise up a life? Was I competent enough to have a perfect blend of raising up a kid with ample ecstasies along with the smart work of my professional life? With so many If’s & buts on my left logical side, the right side of brain was enjoying the moment..Hilarious, It was sensing something beautiful, something striking a chord with my life. Yes it overtook all the pessimism of left side with a lovely aura of spending the upcoming 9 months with full zeal & zest, blissfully counting on the days to hold a delicate tender darling.

With ample questions every day, wrt developments every week rather every day, how the nutrition needs to be tied up irrespective of anything, what all precautions one need to carry along..Registration to baby centre became my handy guide. Yes, numerous directions flew every day from both the Mom’s, which actually gave me a sense of great feeling..I was suddenly on the “prime list” of every family member.

Wanna eat Ice cream & Jalebi at 11 in the night? Eat, don’t control. Wanna rush to a lush garden & have a leisure time, come let’s go. No dinner mood..Leave it, ample choices to be spoilt for. Why drive, cabs are there to help! Oh God ,those superb 9 months ,full of tantrums & excitement ,those were the moments which made my family re-pamper me to the heights & I actually lived my sweet old days .

The routine was more or less the same, being a working woman, It was great to go to office & try to be the same person for close to 5 months.. Any cravings, any discussions with close friends were not allowed to be over heard to other colleagues ( Out of sheer shyness & strict instructions from in-laws to not leak out the good news) .The biggest difficulty was when I moved in 2nd & 3rd trimester & had to somehow hide the baby bump;) Well, thanks to the little one inside who did not allow me to put on much & was able to work out till the last days. Thanks to him that he allowed me to keep on my pace while working. There were amazing sentiments, while talking to your boss, you get a high kick from inside & you just stammer upon, unable to utter or laugh (& then later on you see yourself giggling ;)). I got so lovely colleagues who asked me to slow down & not to lose the appetite completely.. It was a great time to hear from people that your kid will be a super active kid (I certainly had no doubts on it looking at the life I led;)) , & the most precious comment from a close colleague when I told him that “I won’t come from tomorrow.. Hey why are you quitting the organization?” Ha Ha I was stunned but upon telling him with the fact, stunned him all the more.. 8.5 months sitting beside me & unaware of this reality..It felt as WOW..People didn’t even realize that I was expecting!! Incredible journey by me 😉


Initially there were days of upset-ness in first 3 months which I usually felt during evenings post returning from work. But being blessed with an amazing partner, those moments were always lightened..Sometimes “Doughnut guy” was ringing the bell & other times, my loved starters would!! We would sit & play “Scrabble to Ludo to Carom & to utterly kiddish “Guess who ;)”..We would be madly dancing & roaming around in the lanes for night walk. There were daily “Rasgulla’s” in the fridge & Coconut water, soya chips & what all not; all these were a daily part of my bag. God, it was extreme coddling. My better half was all the time on his toes to get me all what I even thought off J Every months there were surprises hidden (Don’t know if they were for me or the little upcoming champ) .

There were days when the visits to hospital made my heart beat go up, sonography’s longed me to see the face of little one (But I wasn’t lucky ,he was so shy to face the camera;)) , switching & increasing of the medicines putrefied my face ..Any comment by the gynecologist suddenly made me all the more cautious…There were wonderful counseling session in the last trimester to make a new mom understand the new life..

There were numerous changes going on in my body every day every minute ,sometimes eating became difficult ,sometimes travel & other times even breathing.. But it all perished when “we” used to chat & smile; When he used to kick & revolve all around inside (as if surveying the upcoming world) ,when the hearts used to beat in sync with one another ..It was the most beautiful feeling to which only I had the access & that was the feeling of “Being a Mom”. Those were the moments when the emotional bond had already been developed, we already knew each other & the only word which existed between us was of “Love, Love & Love”. We were far away from the reality of this world & were lost amongst each other.

& then there was the day ,when he was there in my arms ,so close to me ,I could feel his every breath ,I longed for him close to 9 months & yes the best gift of God was there holding me !


“I’m writing about my wonderful journey of pregnancy for the #YummyMummy blogging activity at BlogAdda
in association with Marico Bio Oil.”

Blissful Journey!!

Motherhood is an amazing feeling, which imbibes in itself an emotion of love, care, merriment, compassion. But the road to motherhood is not an easy path, along with lovely sentiments, it does brings struggle towards the responsibilities, pouts of pain on hearing the cries, an unknown fear towards the future of child and many more. But not just the challenges begin post bringing the little baby in this world, but for a female, for a working female, the challenges begin much before.

As the nuclear family culture is on rise & joint family culture is nearly eroding, the decision to plan a baby for a working woman is the most difficult task .A female has to compromise on her career, on her ambition & opt for the family route. Similar was my situation some 1 year back ,the questions of continuation of my professional life hounded me day night .None of my family members would be with us for sure & it was just me who had to manage the little child & professional work load. The questions as –Would any of my family be there to support my desire of working post baby? Am I ready to take the responsibility of entering into the phase of motherhood? Can I nurture the child with full justice? My ambition towards my career will anytime be an impediment to this decision, whether it’s taken today or later on. But despite these questions ,one day this decision had to be taken, so, firmly the decision was taken & I welcomed my beautiful child some 7 months back.

My desire to continue with the profession was somewhere hidden for the fear of getting no support from the family for the first 3 months. I just tried thinking day night, but could not arrive at any solution to convince my family. Rather, looking at the strong sense of my in-laws to resign as soon as possible , was too hard for me to digest. How could I leave my career of 6 years behind? Why did I study so hard to have glorious academics & then have a successful career? It was not made for this day, a day that my child would be brought into this world, I would have to quit my other life. No, who so ever may protest, I had to be very firm on my mind-set & find some solution to cater to my ambitions, along with my child.

So the first step I took was to convince my husband ,& to the most pleasant surprise ,he was with me ,he lend me full support not to put a question mark on my career. This gave me immense strength & a confidence to manage up both the responsibilities with 100% justice. The very next day I decided to have a discussion with my management & started for my office.

The feeling of landing up at work place was so pleasant, so warm, a new hope of positivity ushered me.

Not just my husband ,my management was there with me ,so considerate & so understanding .They did gave me a chance to prove myself ,but being a new mom in a nuclear family ,I was allowed to initiate half day work from home. That was the biggest gift my management could have given me. Happily, I arranged for my maid to be with my kid for 4 hours during which I was away from home. For some 15 days I trained my maid on all the basics (although she was experienced) ,desires & naughtiness of my kid .I did gave out some time for my kid to get accustomed to the caretaker for few hours before joining the office. Things turned out very well, it has been 3 months that I have been working in this manner.

I’m with my kid from morning, prepare his meals daily (as he is in his weaning phase), start for the office & come back in 4 hours. Then it’s me, my kid & yes office work in between as & when I get time.

So really GOD is great, for every moment, for every desire he is there along with us .Anything tried deeply from the bottom of heart is bound to work sooner or later.

This was a new life for me, a life which I fought from the elders to live ,a life which I want every working female to understand that to begin a family should never be an obstacle to the hardly built up career. Not necessary one might get the support of management & husband the way I got, but it was my resolution to keep the head high. Even in the adverse situations, one can always be an entrepreneur & design their lives along a new path.

This phase has actually been blissful for me, my kid & my profession.

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Hey good Morning " Always on the Click"Mum..Guys M 5 month old Arham:) Check out my dashing images with mum;)

Hey good Morning ” Always on the Click”Mum..Guys I’m 5 month old Arham:) Check out my dashing images with mum;)

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wow! Sunlight appeased me..I’m happy Mum, Thrilled!!

Aww..What a love theme..Thanks for Kisse mum ,but beware..My cheeks will wear out..Stay away;)

Aww..What a love theme..Thanks for Kisse mum ,but beware..My cheeks will wear out..Stay away;)

Mum ,Did u know that I can be a good Chef? Try my cuisines some other day;)

Mum ,Did u know that I can be a good Chef? Try my cuisines some other day;)

Ahh..Tired!! Found Solace in you:)

Ahh..Tired!! Found Solace in you:)

Where'z the party tonight..M reday Mum..Come lets party hard:)

Where’z the party tonight..M ready Mum..Come lets party hard:)

YO YO Honey Singhhh..Why do you stare ,lemme show some moves:)

YO YO Honey Singhhh..Why do you stare ,lemme show some moves:)

I’m MOM -Master of Multitasking: My Journey from Or to And

 My Journey from “Or to And”

There cannot be true democracy unless women’s voices are heard. There cannot be true democracy unless women are given the opportunity to take responsibility for their own lives” – Hillary Rodham Clinton

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Is women born to make sacrifices, to forgo her plans of life initially for the happiness of her parents, then for Husband & In laws & then for her Kids?
But the question comes as to Why only Women?? It has more to do with the Indian culture, the society we live in & the values in which we have been brought up ,the society which still assumes woman handling the sole responsibility of taking care of home & her family ,of nurturing the child ,but it has never ever thought of the working woman looking after home & nurturing the child .

Men ,if you ever wanna know what a woman’s mind feels like, imagine a browser with 2857 tabs open all the time ! She is multi-tasking!

Why are we assumed to perform only one task at a time ,Is it just an extension to the older times when women were confined to homes & men were treated as bread earners ?Why even when researches dominate that women are Multi tasker’s, as a result of their better planning & strategies ,our families still constrain us to go for the option of “OR” & most of the times that OR ,as per the family is opined towards betterment of family ,but to ask us ,it actually dwindles away the hopes & ambition of a women .A woman can easily manage a Lion’s share of household & childcare chores ,along with the sense of full or part time work ,which is because we tend to equate priorities ,organize our responsibilities& don’t just jump into. Studies say that “women might possess higher level of cognitive control than men wrt planning, monitoring and inhibiting behaviour”.

Well I believe ,that most of the Indian women might have faced these challenges in their lives & post resentment ,One would have fallen prey to family wishes discarding self inner feelings to pose as an idealistic Daughter or Wife or Mother. Bust ,just ask yourself ,are you so weak that to explore & nurture your ideas ,your ambition ,you need to fall prey to those emotional stings? We, The women have the qualities to dissuade, to convince our families & we are the best force to prove that we alone can handle & justify numerous tasks with 100% efficiency & competency.

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Well ,like all I have also faced few instances wherein I was de-motivated (on the name of justice to role)& forced to opt for single role in the family ,but I was not the one to let my ambition pass away that soon ..I went ,I ran & caught them ,savoured the fruits of my ambition & corroborated my success not by judging the best responsibility done ,but by exemplifying myself as an “Epitome of Modern day Women ,a confident women ,who can manage her numerous roles hand in hand & that too with utmost ecstasy & excellence”.

So it all began ,(post 3 years of marriage)with elderly pressure flowing in on high, to expand the family ,but as these days ,wherein both the partners are working ,ambitious about their career & growth in life ,this tricky situation calls for a genuine delay & takes a toll on one ,especially on the feminine part of the wheel…But yes ,few questions kept pondering me then ,How long will I delay it? One day I’ll have to enter Motherhood & sensing a strong signal of taking a sabbatical from work to be a care taker. Would any of my family be there to support my desire of working post baby? Am I ready to take the responsibility of entering into the phase of motherhood? Can I nurture the child with full justice? My ambition towards my career will anytime be an impediment to this decision, whether it’s taken today or later on.
All these questions hovered around my mind, & after a huge bewilderment ,I was firm…My decision was yes ,I’ll enter into the phase ,let me take the life as it comes ,I’m not that weak to surrender my passion ,my charm. There needs to be 200% justice to both the objectives of Motherhood as well as of the Profession, the profession which gives you everything, from leading a desired lifestyle to the social significance & Motherhood ,which gives you the immense pleasure of life.

As was expected ,with the happiness ushering out of the little innocent tender baby ,it was at the back of the minds of my family ,to define & restrict me to only one role ,that of motherhood. & one day over the discussion ,this decision was enforced on me to quit my Profession & be a good Homemaker & caretaker of my kid ,none bothering to question my aspirations ,none hoping to find some mid solution to my ambition ,instead I was filled with so much of scepticism ,that if I opted for Job this time ,It would have filled me with deep guilt & would have proved that I could not be a good mother & been fair with my little kid. In their thoughts, The duty of a mother is only to care & up-bring her child.

Days & weeks passed by ,with the same thought pondering me ,but as my leaves came to an end ,I wanted to face this world booming with self confidence & make a new start by handling my profession as well as enjoying motherhood..

Our female leaders have all emerged out of these situations & this is the moment wherein a women needs to be balanced emotionally as well as intellectually! If Arundhati Bhattacharya ,Chanda Kochar , Kristin Armstrong could have done it few years back ,why can’t I? They have been my role models & I have to earn my name for the uphill tasks I’ve dealt in.

Few battles are worth fighting ,so, pretty decisive of not calling it a quit & enter into sabbatical, I went for a discussion with my management to impart some flexibility & I was so very thrilled on the first few words of my Manager ,A senior Vice president of the organization “ We feel women can handle multi-dimensional things & all at the same moment ,we believe that you are capable of doing justice to both the arduous professions & we ensure to be completely flexible & lend out support to fulfil both the chores” ! What else God! These words radiated a new Joy ,new shine & acted as morale booster to be proud of my decision to join back some 15 days later.

Well ,there was no looking back ,I drove swiftly back to my home to share my happiness with my husband & to my belief ,my husband stood out with me ,embracing my thoughts ..What a respite that was! Suddenly winds seemed to be blowing from other end ,calming me down ,inducing productive thoughts ,ushering a new ray of cheerfulness around me. Quickly entered into the mode of employing a fulltime helper (known to me for past 2 years),training her to feed my baby ,sing lullabies , to make him sleep, play with him, during few 3-4 hours when I would be at my office .Observing her for a week gave a thumbs up ,as my darling gelled with the good caretaker. Belief was the biggest factor ,in the absence of any family member ,keeping the kid alone with the helper even for an hour was tedious ,but yes our mutual faith made it happen!

Preparations for my Day1 at office began ,rescheduling all the work timelines ,prioritizing them ,making my baby comfortable ,feeding &massaging him ,cooking lunch was what I was supposed to do before my day started at office & I did complete all the tasks in hand on time ,with very much the same passion& warmth as it was earlier! Returning from office demanded my baby’s bathing ,changing ,feeding ,playing ,to be his mini Joker , more kiddish & big chatterbox, singing all self –formed lullabies ,talking all non sense ,making silly faces & laughing from nowhere ,just to see smile & happiness on his face, sharing all these intimate moments with him to show my love ,compassion & care for him.(& yes making presentations ,data mining, in between for the office work)
Day 1 was super anxious ,meeting all the colleagues ,answering their queries ,it was a wonderful re-union I felt !It was also an inspiring moment for 2 of my female colleagues who were expecting in some time(& with the same circumstances of family apprehensions ,nuclear family stand) ,this feeling to motivate them ,to steer them towards their sense of independence became my aspiration ,I yearning for them to not chose “OR” but be a part of “AND” fraternity & celebrate the happiness of life!
It’s been some 3-3.5 months now ,though things have become pretty hectic but it has not drained me .A look at my life ,my baby de-stresses me out completely & I’ve discovered a new energy in my working styles. I can proudly say that I’m giving my 100% to both my love (Motherhood & profession) & none of my responsibility stands out neglected or undermined. My aspiration to touch pinnacles in my career, along with blessing my kid with all “Sanskaras” ,all support to let him grow into a confident,responsible young man remain intact!
Well ,on a lighter note ,I’m not just managing 2 biggest tasks hand in hand…But yes my first passion ,my first love (before my profession & kid came into my life) –my write ups in the form of Blogs ,keep kindling me up & spreaden the aura of radiance around me..

So I’m a happy Manager ,An ecstatic Mother ,A thrilled Blogger ,A magnificent Home maker & A Contented Human Being!

Hats off to the modern women!! Welcome us & help us inspire many more!

This post is a part of #UseYourAnd activity at BlogAdda in association with Gillette Venus“.

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