My Memoir

Everyone in this world need love ,an unconditional love be it from Spouse or Parents or Siblings or close friends ,as this love is the panorama which provides immense strength ,faith in ourselves ,it acts as a booster dose to move ahead in life post failures or agonies ,it is the only refresher which motivates one to take the risk ,go ahead & capture the dreams sought after .

However strong one may be ,there is always an emotional side of a person ,which always need expression in some form or the other ,which might be in the form of immense care or it could be just 5 minutes of togetherness which fills life with radiance. Being an ambitious girl with respect to studies & career & post that marriage has posed many challenges in front of me ,there were many instances in my life wherein my parents & my friends ushered a new light ,a new hope in my life ,looking at the negative circumstances with optimism ,fighting against the odds & moving ahead in life. For me, Love & support from them has always been the riding factor of life.

With such a beautiful topic in hand relating challenges with optimism, I would love to narrate one of the incident during the fundamental & the most decisive year in my education life. With high hopes & dreams to have a tag of “Dr.” ,I was deeply & madly engrossed in my preparation of entrance for MBBS .I has given my complete 1 year for the preparation ,with average of 18 hours of study daily to excel & ensure my parent’s dream come true. Such had been the condition, that my house lady pitied me upon, & took special care of me in all terms, be it food, or freshness or love or any of my requisite. Seeing me so much engrossed in my dreams, she herself made a motive to be my endearing support & help me out in all possible manners. From morning till night ,she was there besides me & acted like a second mother to me(in the absence of my mom with me ,as I was in another town to take up the tutorials).She used to check me out in the night ,& even sometimes made me sleep in her lap. Such was her radiance that her one smile made me calm & ushered optimism in me. Days & months passed by ,we had filled up some 3 entrance test ,3 best in India ,but the seats in comparison to the applications has always been a challenge for the top tier institutes but I had a firm confidence in me up clearing the entrances for top notch ones.

The day came to write up the exams, with folded hands, my time either went to pray to God or to just revise my hardwork, & exams did go well &I was desperate to see the outcome of my work. Post writing up my exams, I had moved back to my home, to be with my family & have some quality time. But the phase between writing exams & announcement of the results always kept on hounding me & aggravated my feelings on seeing the frequent discussion about it at home. It was the worst phase ,neither could I laugh loudly nor could I be as I was …For me ,it was just the result awaited which would decide upon my fate.

One month later ,results announced ,1st test I was 4th Waiting ,2nd Test I was 10th & 3rd I did not clear all together ..So shattered I was …No one could guarantee waiting clearance, my mind stopped working, I was into tears, where did I lose? Where could have I been negligent ,How did I miss the most precious year of my life ,How come I not make my parents feel proud , I could not fulfill their dreams?So many How’s & why’s pondered me over..It felt I would lose my mental balance, but suddenly amidst all this, the presence of someone changed my thoughts. My house lady had come over the next day to be with me, on knowing of the result. As I saw her, I jumped & hugged her so tightly & cried like hell..She let me cry..She heard me wailing..She heard all complaints towards God.. & Just narrated one line.. Baba ,you’ve not lost anything ,you’ve not lost me ,you’ve not lost love of your parents ,You’ve not lost love of your friends ,then why to act as a loser? See the love all have in their eyes, see the pain when you are in pain, Is it not sufficient, you will have more chances to succeed in life, give it another chance .Yes, her beautiful words acted as a pacifier to me & I controlled & decided to give myself another chance. But ,I wanted to move away from medical field (as I had so many bad memories of them) ,I consulted ,graduated in Biotechnology from Top Institute in India ,bagged a Gold Medal in my Graduation as well as Post Graduation & today I stand firm a, successful & ambitious professional ,a successful home maker & a mother to 7 month old kid.

Yes life teaches one a lot & mostly few people, their love & their simple guidance pour optimism in life.

For me, my house lady, Prerna aunty was & is everything to me, just like her name!

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The Lost Journey…Enchanting passions

A dream doesn’t becomes reality through magic ,it takes sweat ,determination & hardwork !! Colin Powell

Dreams ,Hopes ,aspirations ,wishes, vision ,all play an important role not just in our lives but also act as the biggest mentor to achieve & accomplish these dreams. Who haven’t thought of getting on road on Rolls Royce or going to Mars ,well many of us would have wished to but yes we all live in a world which is full of constraints ,which is full of ambiguity towards life .

Every step marched ahead needs to be carefully looked into with the responsibility of someone dependent on you, with the accountability of your deeds towards your family. Sometimes ,a dream gets vanished for the sake of happiness of family ,sometimes it gets loaded with so many other aspirations that the road for its completion is almost lost ,or sometimes it just sits awaiting for the right moment (which might last from few days to few years).

Whatever might be the reasons ,in this hustle bustle of our lives ,with the cultural values we have been pinned into ,many a time dreams entangle itself & remain in our dreams only . It takes guts ,challenge , a bold spirit to deviate from the destined path & let your dreams come true ,after all we have the freedom to see ,nourish & cherish those lively dream of ours:)

Same is the story of me ,an Indian girl ,a girl brought up in a modern family ,very naughty, jovial ,lively ,full of happiness, but lost somewhere in the path of success ,a path to become pride of her parents ,a path to fulfil their dreams & to make them happy ,& yes she succeeded in this resolution. My excel & numerous Gold medals in higher studies brought accolades to them ,they were being congratulated upon every step I took forward & excelled. But, amongst this tiff of my heart & mind, I almost lost everything, every small dream I had ,be it from plucking my favorite daisies ,to roam around every week & explore new places ,to visit the world some day ,laugh with the nomads ,fight against anti -female protagonists ,to enlighten the world with a single word “Humanity” !

Well ,all these seemed a beautiful lane passed through ,as I entered into the world full of responsibilities ,a new world ,a new family post marriage. But ,my little world ,my husband ensured that I live every dream of mine ,with the same ecstasy ,same naiveness which I had before & slowly I began my journey to enlighten myself. Definitely ,all of my dreams ,some weird ,some vague to start up ,have not been given a momentum to ,but yes my journey to fulfill my lost ambition has definitely begun!

This topic of “Befikar Umar bhar”,actually rolled out my thoughts in a reel ,trying to again see my weirdest of the dreams to come true ,if I were actually “befikar” ,If I had just me in my life (& no-one dependent or with no responsibility towards others) ,so here goes my 5 cravings from my life :

1. A journey to Space -Since kid ,I was so curious to explore the kids ,staring into the dark night ,with those starry affairs ,thinking of the Milky way , plotting out planets(Mars ,Jupiter,venus) & stars ,constellations ,Big dipper & so many other things. This galaxy has always fascinated me & till date,I dream of foraying into space someday .Dunno the probability of returning back or the state of affairs there but still this is the biggest dream I want to nourish

2. Swim & Cross English Channel :One of the most iconic Open water Swim ,but currently one of the most challenging swim ,with the water temperatures varying between 15-18 degrees ,harsh air temperatures, when you get to know that it is more warm in water than outside,when you know that even 3-min of feed per hour can make you a target of those immense tides against youJ But yes ,some day ,I’m bound to cross it braving the adverse factors.

3.Marathon on North Pole : Well sounding too shivery ,but yes I would love to conquer the world with this coldest Marathon ,amongst that Icy world ,too close with those beautiful creatures on the snow:)

4.Own a part of Bora Bora island in my name – Well that’s where I need ample of Pocket money;) ,Let my networth increase & allow me some funding ,I’m gonna do it even when I’m 80;)

5.Finally to be an Entrepreneur ,registering my company “Adventure Locks & Flocks” ,a company to cater to all Adventures of life ,ranging from the simpler ones to the most weird ones .

Although I need to mention my five befikar dreams but my list goes long ,as I see a new dream every day ..I love dreams ,to be in dreams ,to think of making them a success & agreeing to the Quote “ The future belongs to them ,who believe in the beauty of their Dreams .. Eleanor Roosevelt”

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Lost passion to Lost in Passion

Things that Define me?!!
Working Marketing professional ,A mother &homemaker wandering across on weekends ,narrating them in the form of my writing passion ….This relates to my small world with lots & pots of zeal to conquer every moment ,to explore the unexplored ,to spend life travelling across ,kicking myself into acts of adrenaline rush ,& at the end of the day to be an innocent & lively girl of my parents ,to be the best love of my hubby & the Best mother of my 5 month old kid”!!!

Every person on this planet has some passion, some innate distinctive eminence which distinguishes one personality from another. It’s not just the uniqueness of the finger prints, but matchless adjectives ,exclusive hobbies that group together to form an identity.

The generalized formula to describe one would be : Adjectives +Passions & Hobbies

Well ,the adjectives that form me ,my personality ,in accordance with my name – JHILMIL = Joyous or Jocular (for my KID), Hearty, Intellectual, Lively, Meticulous Mom ;), Industrious, Lovable Wifey;) !

& Indeed most of them in some combination & with some extra’s as Possessiveness, Care, Responsible are innate qualities of a Women ,of a Mother.

So being a working Mother of a Kid ,it is not just a single passion yet alive in me ,but complete bouquet of passion to cater to my “Chanchal Mann”. Being grown up in a service class family ,with both parents working ,independence reigned me very soon .Being the youngest & the most loving kid in the family ,I was a victim of high expectations ,&targeted as “Parents dream Achiever “not just with respect to studies ,but in all extra-curricular activities be it sports or Dancing or Singing or Elocutions ,or Poetry or Drawing. Dragged into all ,I was not just a trained Kathak dancer but at the same time was Black Belt in karate ,100m Winner athlete, fine skilled in sketching (winning many competitions in School & district level) ,& a poetry reciting girl in many “Kavi sammelan’s” (poetry formed by my dad ,with great work in Urdu & Hindi) .All this instilled a sense of all round ambition in me! This ambition further grew as I went for higher studies & gave me a great success in my Graduation& MBA by winning a Gold Medal in both!

But all this while ,to fulfil my parents dreams, dreams which I saw in their eyes , which they could not achieve for themselves & in this journey of achieving immense happiness for them ,I somehow lost myself ,my & only my passions (which were sketching ,Writing articles & Blogs ,Travelling & opting for adventure activities ,exploring arts & local cuisines)

 So, losing on my actual passions in the passage of Life , I realized some time back ,with my husband pitching me strong enough to re-live my happy moments ,to enjoy what I actually love doing the most ,& then started my journey of so called “What it calls for -To re-live passion” !

I started all through, beginning with my profound love for pencil sketching ,which grew leaps & bounds ,from writing up my personal diary to Travel blogs & now to tech & Motherhood blogs ,from not just travelling for the sake to see but travelling for the sake to live my life on thrills ,on adventure ,to pounce on food not just to fill tummy, but to relish delicacies (although Veg. ) wherever I’am:)

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Me being adventure Junkie, made me opt for activities as :

High tide rafting in Rishikesh ,Ladhak ,Teesta (gangtok) ,which unnerved my notion of rafting as a “Joyous merri -time ride”, while exploring level 3& 4 Rafting , Splendid, simply superb my heart pounding loud enough upon this achievement ,as I screamed , yelled ,tears flowing down the eyes with a smile on the faces thanking GOD for giving me such a scintillating memories of all our lives.
 40ft high Cliff jumping : An unnerving, sensation less feeling ,sudden shivering of hands & legs, face turning pale & driving me numb all  through, standing at the edge of the hillock .Thinking & praying all the Gods & pardoning for all misdeeds ,I just wished GOD to be my saviour  & yes I did it ,I plunged myself from this height into the hands of Ma Ganga. No words of Oxford could have ever described those flash of moments ,as soon as I bumped deep in the river & came out with loud thump with a sense of satisfaction !
 Under Sea Walk : With the turbulent water currents, strong weights put around my waist ,huge mask ,I was not even able to stand & I had to walk  ,this took little time to understand the underwater moves but it became an auto function soon, once we were surrounded by colourful corals ,beautiful yellow ,blue fishes  swimming around us & we giving small bread pieces to those beautiful free living creatures. Amazed to see huge corals ,all of different shapes! Simply Incredible tour of the under sea life !
 The Ultimate Sky Ride “Parasailing” : Tied up from our legs holding the strings of parachute set in a specific pose ,marked our readiness to fly high in the skies..1 minute more & yes it went up ,up & more up ,more high in the deep blue sky.Amazing ,no word could’ve explained that moment ,eyes wide opened ,peeping the surroundings ,across the vast ocean down ,our friends ,waving at us. Peeping down just shivered me ,as we sensed highness from the ocean. Simply Scintillating!
 A Gallantry act of Walk with Lions for 45 min: How to explain the moment seeing at two huge Lions coming out & marching straight towards us ,What a moment that was ,hearts beating in sync (more than 200 beats) ,body shivering & turning pale , but at the same moment this fabulous scene made us fall in love with the Majestic beasts. NO reservations against calling this as “WONDER OF WORLD” ,an adventure never to miss ,FEAR FACTOR & enthralling moment ,Panic & ecstatic feelings ,all gushing at the same time !

& many more thrills as Kayaking ,jet skiing ,Swimming with Dolphins ,Submarine ride ,Jungle adventures !

Apart from the thrill ,I found a love with my newly discovered Passion post marriage, that of cooking ,specially Baking Cakes (from the simplest vanilla cake, to have with coffee during leisure & reading time ,to the Apple crunchy cake, Carrot cake ,Marble &strawberry –Choco cheese cakes ),muffins as Choco & Banana muffins ,Garlic breads ,Various Italian delicacies (turning out to google for all brilliant recipes & copying with pride) .This has soaked me with immense happiness as a great cook & an ever-learning cook:)

It seems ,with the advent of every new phase in life ,with a broad open mind one does fall prey for many interests ,& I discovered a new passion of “Human Photography” with the onset of my Baby ! Well ,never into the pictorial mood for humans( yes ,I was an Avid photographer of Nature ,Of those humongous mountains, barren or snow clad ,free flowing river ,mesmerizing Flora & fauna during Safari’s) ,but arrival of my baby turned on my Photography genes which indulged me to upgrade from click & shoot camera to DSLR camera .Now the day passes photographing my kido in different swings ,moods actions & this is growing further to capture surrounding human emotions & art related to it.

Well, my list of passions is never gonna recede but will keep on flourishing with new statures ,new endeavours in life ,to give life a new meaning ,a new definition altogether.

 So ,I guess I can dynamically term myself ,A Traveloholic Professional Mother ,with great interests in Sketching, Photography & Food tasting cum cooking!

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Escapade to Rishikesh!!

To find solace amidst our professional lives drove us to picturesque spiritual place in the Himalayas “Rishikesh”.Although Haridwar- Rishikesh are more synonymous to Devotion & yogic sentiment, but we categorically chose it to sense our passion for Adventure & find solace amidst.
To chill out ,our 2 friends drove from Jaipur & we started our Journey from delhi ,early morning @5am. Initial feelings viewing lush green paddies ,beautiful sunrise aroused a sense of pleasantness & a lively trip ahead.
Our stay was per-determined @the Natural habitat of”tents” besides the bed of River Ganges.
Post drive of 4 hrs ,chants of Mantras ,Bhajanas ,ringing Bells embarked the onset of Haridwar & all of a sudden religious feelings surrounded me. Crossing Haridwar& reaching our tents on the suburbs of Rishikesh took another 1hr but that route drove us crazy.
Arrival @ “A-Star” tent was signaled by the hoarding aside the hill ,but we could no where find it.It wore a deserted look ,but as luck would have it ,we saw a Nepali man(our attendant) approaching us & sooner we realized that our Tents were deep down the hill & it took us 40-50 steps climbing down into a deep gorge sort to reach our place for hibernation for next 1 day.Out tents besides River bed!
Wow! What an affectionate welcome! Our journey to adventure had already begun as soon as we entered the “green house shed as our Lunch & Dinner room” ; a huge sandy beach pertaining s our playground ;& Tents as our sole shelter (& not to forget natural rocky loos but yes with water facilities).
Just a panoramic view sparkled my eyes & I exclaimed! Just 20 ft from our tent ,was river Ganges flowing gracefully. Fresh Sweet lemon water & a simple “home-made” lunch with wide variety was the next surprise awaiting us!
We quickly immersed ourselves to get pampered by the compassionate management @the tents.
Next adventure in line was tier 4 River Rafting, which took an hour for us to drive to the spot “Sangam” where our co-rafters hanged around. Post getting coached for the rafting ,with all preparation to avoid any untoward any incident ,we were all set to begin our 2nd Raft experience (post River Teesta@ gangtok).We dressed as Rafters & got ready full of energy for a bumpy ride lasting for 3.5 hrs .DSC02888
Initial 5-6 kms were simple sailing & more of a preparatory sessions for the forthcoming “tier 3-4 Rapids named as –Seven sisters,3 Blind Mice & bla bla). But within next 15 minutes, we encountered our first rapid ,2 huge tides roaring & moving hastily towards us, with all our strength ,we rowed in sync & got thru’ ,but soon realized that it got us completely wet through .It aroused a sense of exhilaration & more preparedness for the upcoming biggest “Seven sisters rapid”.

As we saw the raft ahead us approaching the Rapid ,& it vanished the very next moment  ,left us with our hearts thumping hard ,but soon we saw the edges of raft getting pushed out of the tide post 30 sec , gave us a sigh of relief & encouraged us all the more.

Hard rowing begun moving against the huge huge seven sisters (7 tides together)& OMG!! This was splendid,simply superb  as the tide threw us harshly inside the tide & river ,then pushing us on the top ,then again deep inside & finally on emerged out of the tide ,took our breaths away .But that was not the stop to it ,as we saw the very next rapid (3 Blind mice) moving in agony towards us. With all our might to counter the mighty tide ,we somehow managed to prevent overturning of our raft (as the earlier raft had over turned ),nothing could have been more magnificent than this . Gosh! Our hearts pounding loud enough ,we screamed , yelled ,tears flowing down the eyes with a smile on the faces thanking “Ma Ganga” for giving us such a scintillating memories of all our lives.
But this was not the end of our adventure ,as we soon saw an opportunity for Cliff Jumping
I was the first one to announce to have this part of adventure (being non-swimmer) & it was confirmed by our guide who informed that this hillock was some 25-30 ft high & higher one was some 35-40 ft high, giving us an adrenaline rush.
Tying our Raft to a rock ,we disembarked & started climbing the hill (pre-ordering Hot delicious Maggie on the side stall) & reached the lower cliff (30 ft)& my hubby on the higher one .But standing at this height for the first timer ,blew away all confidence out of me in nano seconds & gave me a realization –God! I cannot! Fight between my mind & heart started as usual , unnerving me ,sensation less feeling ,sudden shivering of my hands & legs, face turning pale & driving me Numb all  through, standing at the edge of the hillock .But ,I had to encounter this ,& my Hubby’s (good swimmer)jump from higher cliff alarmed me & aroused 5% confidence ,which I felt was enough at that spurt of moment .
Thinking & praying all the Gods & pardoning for all misdeeds ,I just wished GOD to be my savior  & yes I did it .I plunged myself in the hands of Ma Ganga.

No words of Oxford could have ever described those flash of moments ,as soon as I bumped deep in the river & came out with loud thump & a sense of satisfaction aroused ,but none later I realized that i was all alone in the midst of the river (my hubby was far away taken by the water current) & a tide slowing moving towards me .Crying for help ,I realized that my guide had taken a dive post me ,ensuring that someone was close to me for my safety. With his initial help I crossed the tide & had a miraculous feeling on seeing my hubby moving swiftly towards me . His touch & sense gave me a sense of bliss & I relished inside the river for some more time & pounced on the hot Maggie coming out of my Brave Act;)

Post Cliff jump!

Post Cliff jump!

We did encounter ,2 more huge rapids but those were noting in front of my Brave & Mighty jump.

Out ,post 3.5 hr Rafting ,pledging happiness ,we drifted slowly towards our “Natural habitat” .What  a warm welcome to our delight, Bonfire ,light melodies of Kishore Kumar ,next to free flowing Ganges ,we savored to hot Kebabs, Paneer pakora’s & Adrak Tea ! It had a big big relaxing effect .

As the moonlight spreadened, stars coming out from their shelters sparkling, provoked a sensation of tranquility & we soon decided that our sleep Bed’s would be on River bed & not inside the tents .
So my next round of Jungle adventure started ,with deep silence , no noise ,all in deep sleep.
Suddenly ,I woke up with trees whistling loudly ,river gushing with high tides (tides get on peak during nights) ,God that was unnerving ,finding all deep asleep & me alone was pondering with fear that night of horror. With a feeling of deep conjuring amidst the black night, hovered by huge trees ,I had actually lost my sleep for the next 4 hrs. I indulged in the thoughts of all spirit stories ( had spelt on me by our Nepali attendant last evening ) assuming & self deciding their factual. I just kept praying & really God must’v had pity on me,as soon as I heard Birds chirping ,bidding bye to black nMorning Yoga:)ight & welcoming the beautiful “rays of life”.

One of the most scenic morning saluted us & we        sipped our hot tea sitting on our beds, admiring the  Nature & all discussing of the sound & gracious sleep they had last night (except me ,who just accepted their views of sound sleep ,with a panicky smile;)) .
At 6am ,we were ready from our beds & aroused a  sportsman with us , equipped to start with  Badminton on the beach ,followed by Beach Volley ball”.

In the need of relaxation ,we practiced yoga & meditation (with sun bath) aside the river ,which did cast a spell of freshness in me.
Post breakfast ,it was packing back to re-enter the busy hustle bustle life of Delhi ,but that could not get complete without taking a feel of River Ganga again! For an hour we played inside the river ,did lots & pots of “Chai chap chai” to bid final adieu to the amazing nature & realization of all over in Love again!
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                                                              Tit-Bits –
Distance from Delhi -Approx. 240 km to Haridwar & further 40 Km to Camp site.
Mode of Travel – We went by car ,frequent Trains & Buses available from Delhi.
Best time to visit- Anytime during the year except May-Aug (Summers(spl for Tent stay) & rainy season)
Best place to stay– Rule out luxury resorts & opt for some Jungle tents available at 
1.5- 2k/night 
What not to miss– Rafting ,Cliff jump ,Trekking,Evening Aarti at Ghat .