Dosti Yaari etc

” कौन होता है दोस्त? दोस्त वो जो बिन बुलाये आये, बेवजह सर खाए, जेब खाली करवाए, कभी सताए, कभी रुलाये, मगर हमेशा साथ निभाए.”  !!

So here comes tale of colleagues to friends to travel mates & then to one of the best friend  & finally to mommies.

You could find many friends on this earth but the grasp of true friends who are not just besides you in the happy times but there to second you every moment, whether good or bad are the true friends whom you back on forever.

Such is our friendship, which started from normal group washroom gossip from dresses to bosses to in-laws ;). It was indeed a very slow motion friendship moving ahead with having lunches together to playing Table tennis in free office time. Suddenly we cracked some familiarity with each other, from the basic nature to the end objectives of life, all seemed to match with each other. Good liasoning was the main factor which made us both close together.

Yes both of us were married by then, but suddenly my husband decided to make a move to another city & so I had to follow him. But moving away from each other never left us shattered, we continued our long gossips in whatever meager time we had.

Meeting each other had become difficult hence we thought to enhance our friendship circles & drove it by planning a quick getaway trip with our better-half’! As the luck would have it, both the males instantly got along with each other, rejoicing every bit of our journey from hiking to playing to swimming to rafting. Not even for a moment it felt that it was the first outing & meeting together. This was the point which actually strengthened our bond all the more.

There was no turning back; we all started having small trips together, enjoying each other’s company all the more.  I still remember it was in Jan’2014, evening 7 pm when all of a sudden both of us spoke instantly..”I’m expecting”.. What?? What?? Yes, OMG you too.. WOW, that was really brilliant, our minds & hearts were all in such synchronization & not to miss, both of us had nearly same dates, just 10-12 days of difference!

Our bond grew more close, sharing the baby bump pictures, caring more for each other, sharing our doctors conversations, what to eat, what not to.. Suddenly the world had changes so much, those are the months when you are at your maximum emotional turmoil’s & then it was I realized ours as a true friendship.. No grudges, No qualms, just understanding & caring for each other.

Delivery date was shivering me, it was she, who was herself in that mode but always encouraged me to be strong, to have the feeling of motherhood, to be positive & within the span of 15 days both of us gave birth to lovely boys, Arham & Arjun! It’s said that motherhood is a new birth for mother as well & indeed it was a re-birth of our friendship as well. If it brings out the other side of a woman in the form of compassion, love, tenderness it also brings us across numerous challenges & you know there needs to be a strong support apart from your family who understands you & I can proudly say that it was her for me!

It’s been 2 years now that our babies are in our lives, relations take a toll, but for us nothing has changed. We are yet the same pals who care for each other, still plan trips together with kids now, eat, laugh & play together. Life has become happier with you dear friend!

Dedicated to our friendship …”Jab life ho out of control, hoton to karke gol…Seeti baja ke bol…All is well”, we know we are & will be always together & till the time it remains , life will be always be in

“All is well” mode!

Thanks for the entire bouquet of love dear friend!

We all have some amazing friends in our lives, do check out the upcoming show on ZEE TV:” Yaaron Ki Baraat” (Vivo Smartphone presenting Yaaron Ki Baraat co-powered by Amazon.in and Brooke Bond Red Label) ,which will put celebrity friendships through many challenging & interesting tasks from 8th Oct at 8Pm!

Don’t miss the fun & chance to re-live your friendship!

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Those Amazing 262 days

The wonderful quotation made me re-live amazing memories of close to 2-2.5 years back, yes those 9 months, the most special ones, when for the 1st time I established the fact that there was a life bubbling up in me!

Well, so different was that day, amidst the hush of life, when the purple line in the test suddenly got me in qualm..Dilemma on how my professional life would move ahead? Serious skepticism on how will I raise up a life? Was I competent enough to have a perfect blend of raising up a kid with ample ecstasies along with the smart work of my professional life? With so many If’s & buts on my left logical side, the right side of brain was enjoying the moment..Hilarious, It was sensing something beautiful, something striking a chord with my life. Yes it overtook all the pessimism of left side with a lovely aura of spending the upcoming 9 months with full zeal & zest, blissfully counting on the days to hold a delicate tender darling.

With ample questions every day, wrt developments every week rather every day, how the nutrition needs to be tied up irrespective of anything, what all precautions one need to carry along..Registration to baby centre became my handy guide. Yes, numerous directions flew every day from both the Mom’s, which actually gave me a sense of great feeling..I was suddenly on the “prime list” of every family member.

Wanna eat Ice cream & Jalebi at 11 in the night? Eat, don’t control. Wanna rush to a lush garden & have a leisure time, come let’s go. No dinner mood..Leave it, ample choices to be spoilt for. Why drive, cabs are there to help! Oh God ,those superb 9 months ,full of tantrums & excitement ,those were the moments which made my family re-pamper me to the heights & I actually lived my sweet old days .

The routine was more or less the same, being a working woman, It was great to go to office & try to be the same person for close to 5 months.. Any cravings, any discussions with close friends were not allowed to be over heard to other colleagues ( Out of sheer shyness & strict instructions from in-laws to not leak out the good news) .The biggest difficulty was when I moved in 2nd & 3rd trimester & had to somehow hide the baby bump;) Well, thanks to the little one inside who did not allow me to put on much & was able to work out till the last days. Thanks to him that he allowed me to keep on my pace while working. There were amazing sentiments, while talking to your boss, you get a high kick from inside & you just stammer upon, unable to utter or laugh (& then later on you see yourself giggling ;)). I got so lovely colleagues who asked me to slow down & not to lose the appetite completely.. It was a great time to hear from people that your kid will be a super active kid (I certainly had no doubts on it looking at the life I led;)) , & the most precious comment from a close colleague when I told him that “I won’t come from tomorrow.. Hey why are you quitting the organization?” Ha Ha I was stunned but upon telling him with the fact, stunned him all the more.. 8.5 months sitting beside me & unaware of this reality..It felt as WOW..People didn’t even realize that I was expecting!! Incredible journey by me 😉


Initially there were days of upset-ness in first 3 months which I usually felt during evenings post returning from work. But being blessed with an amazing partner, those moments were always lightened..Sometimes “Doughnut guy” was ringing the bell & other times, my loved starters would!! We would sit & play “Scrabble to Ludo to Carom & to utterly kiddish “Guess who ;)”..We would be madly dancing & roaming around in the lanes for night walk. There were daily “Rasgulla’s” in the fridge & Coconut water, soya chips & what all not; all these were a daily part of my bag. God, it was extreme coddling. My better half was all the time on his toes to get me all what I even thought off J Every months there were surprises hidden (Don’t know if they were for me or the little upcoming champ) .

There were days when the visits to hospital made my heart beat go up, sonography’s longed me to see the face of little one (But I wasn’t lucky ,he was so shy to face the camera;)) , switching & increasing of the medicines putrefied my face ..Any comment by the gynecologist suddenly made me all the more cautious…There were wonderful counseling session in the last trimester to make a new mom understand the new life..

There were numerous changes going on in my body every day every minute ,sometimes eating became difficult ,sometimes travel & other times even breathing.. But it all perished when “we” used to chat & smile; When he used to kick & revolve all around inside (as if surveying the upcoming world) ,when the hearts used to beat in sync with one another ..It was the most beautiful feeling to which only I had the access & that was the feeling of “Being a Mom”. Those were the moments when the emotional bond had already been developed, we already knew each other & the only word which existed between us was of “Love, Love & Love”. We were far away from the reality of this world & were lost amongst each other.

& then there was the day ,when he was there in my arms ,so close to me ,I could feel his every breath ,I longed for him close to 9 months & yes the best gift of God was there holding me !


“I’m writing about my wonderful journey of pregnancy for the #YummyMummy blogging activity at BlogAdda
in association with Marico Bio Oil.”

Lost Essence …Paryushan!

Since ages ,since I was a Kid ,I saw “Paryushan” as a very important occasion in the life of “Jain Community” ,Being born in a Jain family ,who actually never adopted Jain methodology ,except my Mum ,who started believing deeply in last 10-12 years ,the concept triggered through me in adolescence.

The purity of this festival , significance is so very touchy ,pure ,authentic ,which demands & ensure that you vow not to throw envious attitude towards anyone ,(be it human or even animals) ,which makes you realize & asks one to bow heads towards past deeds wherein one might have hurt anyone ,be it small ,big ,younger or elder or even to animals. With such an important message, which makes our soul pure, guilt free & empowers us to follow “Humanity” in a direct sense, when I see the world today ,I put myself in dilemma &I’m unable to determine the fact behind it…

To me the above quoted message was the utmost memo which made me a deep believer of this festival, but in past 3-4 years, I definitely see the losing essence..But Why??

  • It has become a more fancy term ,people getting involved in fasting not just for a day but for 7 days as well ,during the whole course of the festival ,restricting themselves from the dietary part ,reading the “Jain grantha’s” ,doing Pratikaman’s but then what?? The very next day they sit & bitch about third person, about their cousins, about their daughter-in laws or vice versa…Their selfish interests arise immediately in every deed, their ego comes across everything & the next year they follow the same trend & ask for forgiveness from the same people?
  • People fast& call for huge programs, big lunches or dinners are organized to let people know that they have fasted & done “Tapasya” ..But I ask, is this called tapasya?? Jain religion or in fact any religion can never call for a pomp & show ,all preach for humanity & that too without any shows..Isn’t it said …”Karm kar..Fal ki iccha na kar…Dharm kar…But bina kisiko pata chale”..If the act you’ve done is getting announced just to ensure your popularity, how come it is an act of good deed…Yes people donate & shout of it but that’s wrong, Mum used to tell me that do good towards a person but don’t trigger the announcement.
  • Now ,its E-Greetings time ,in past 2 days I have received dozens of “Micchami dukadam greetings” ,even from people who have not been in contact for years ,is it of any relevance ?After looking at this, it again gives me the pain that people just follow things without having a deeper insight into it..

“It’s the meaning which one has to follow, a deed of envy or wrong towards anyone should not be repeated if we are so sorry of it..But there lies the discrepancy..We do such things every year, infact we hurt the people most close to us the max., we do harm stray animals, we even kill few organisms, but then why do we follow Paryushan? People say not to eat green veggies or underground foods during the course of 7 days, but why? Because of the rainy season there are ample little living organisms in these foods ,but that is not for 7 days ,that is for complete rainy season ,so why just bar in these 7 days? Further, looking at the purity & farming modes of this generation, should this be restricted to just one off season? I certainly deny…People leave cold drinks for these 7 days? Why, did God send some message or he wrote some grantha saying avoid these drinks during the “Paryushan’s”..How funny..It’s just human who made everything, every rule & now ask everyone to follow it without diving into the actual aesthetics of it..”

In the past 3-4 years I actually have seen so much of this false following mechanism, false preachers, that my thoughts have completely got vanished.. From a deep believer, I now don’t even wish to observe Paryushan .

It’s today that I realize my dad’s words ,There is just one religion—HUMANITY ,do good to all ,pray goodness for all ,have guts to say sorry just after you realize of your wrong deed (instead of waiting for Paryushan’s to end),& vow never to repeat that mistake again… That seems to be more practical, you need not go to temple & ask GOD to shower you with the ready list for every visit..Instead your good acts will automatically drive goodness in & towards you!

I might be sounding offensive ,but without being biased towards anyone ,these are just my thoughts ,after looking at the way this festival has moulded .There are many people ,who actually fall into the crux of it ,follow the deep meaning not just for few days but for years & these people are an inspiration to me..But I’m yet to find similar people around me.

Reader’s comments invited!!

My Phone -Zenfone2!!


Favourite phone ? Well ,I guess many would take a chance to ponder ,think over the pros & cons & then might be able to rate their Smart Phones close to 8 out of 10 .. But ,I would love to stand apart from thinking like a think tank ,trying to memorize all the features & would out rightly quote Asus Zenfone2 as my favourite phone!

Among the crowd of budgeted, trendy smartphones, showcasing their features on limited platform of screen size & camera Mega pixels ,ASUS stands differently & with able features demarking their series ,luring the Global customers over its quality ,grandeur.

Recently I had a chance to buy Zenfone2 for my dad, & since then I have fallen in love with its specifications, the robustness, the sexy design, the grand look it portrays & yes in such an affordable price. A click from 13MP camera of ASUS vs 13 MP camera of competition will lead one to a significant difference due to the in built technology rather than just the megapixel.

Their first series was unforgettable & yes, in news from past few months is Zenfone2, the glimpse of it is bound to make one fall in love at their first sight.

Grand Zenfone2!

What does one expect? A dashing look ,Wonderful clicks ,selfie & panoramic views ,enormous memory to fill in with loads of pics ,videos ,books ,movies ,apps, & yes an everlasting battery.

So does it get fulfilled by new Asus Zenfone2? Read below as to why it is my favorite phone & why it is a must in my sexy hands 😉 (although I took for my dad ,but since Day 1 ,it has been explored in my hands)–

Get up & #”See what others can’t see “-

1.As claimed, it is world’s 1st Smartphone with 4GB RAM – Now forget the numerous issues of spacing, click & move, save books /movies & go..4GB is enormous to support superior functioning with Intel processor for better switching in between apps ,smooth video play, quick surfing & a faster performance altogether.

2.It pains to charge my handset of 1800 mAh every now & then & charging to 100% takes nearly 2 hours. Actually I never see it 100% charged due to my constant need .Here goes this lovely Zenfone ,with 3000 mAH battery & a brilliant technology –“BoostMaster technology” embedded to charge the phone at double speed & you’ll see,60% in 39 minutes. Cool!!

3.In love with Selfie?

  • 5MP  front camera with 85 degree wide angle lens is bound to give great selfie. Even group of friends can have a lovely snap with 140 degree panoramic selfie or to capture some beautiful landscapes.
  • 13MP back camera with 5 element lens is bound to capture the minutest details with precision.
  • Tired of getting the wrong color tones? Onion color looking purple or Pink?
  •  Ah! That mark on my face will narrow down my picture ?

Huh! Zenfone2 will get you out of this mess & ensure you have a look at the true colors on captured shots. & yes it also takes care of your beauty by removing those marks, enlightening the complexion to give a flawless picture to fall in love with self once again:)

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                                                    Image Courtesy –https://www.asus.com/in/Tablets_Mobile/ZenFone_2_ZE550ML/PixelMaster/

4. Amazing ZenUI is all the more interesting! Customization of themes, Icons, Wallpapers seems to be scintillating. Furthermore typing ,a “C” on screen to launch camera,”W” for browser ,”E” for Email ,any similar other shortcuts ,seems to be appealing.

5.Tap twice to wake it up from sleep, Tap for One hand mode by shrinking UI, again seems exciting. Managing schedules by Whats Next, Do it later, enabling Kid’s mode to keep a watch on the content visible to them, are also some features worth use in day to day life.

6.Added security in the form of “Trend Micro Security” for heavy browsers to keep mobile on the go without any viral attack.

So, I can be sure, the first glimpse of Asus Zenfone2 shared is fascinating enough to have a look & feel with those amazing accessories & intelligent covers!

Massage with -Dabur Baby Massage Oil

The tenderness, love a child brings in one’s life is certainly a bliss in our life .To see them grow & nurture healthily is again a big challenge which takes most of our time & brings out the best from us ,be it from feeding them with best organic foods or giving them a hygienic environment or sharing with them BPA free toys .Amongst all this lies a very important part of a child’s growth ,Massage ,which is a wonderful way to express our love ,care & give our child a healthy life.

Importance of Child Massage:

Since ages, massaging child has taken on its roots in India, with the reasons making it mandatory as:

  1. An important gentle & rhythmic stroking which tones up baby’s muscles & makes bones strong
  2. It also enhances blood circulation & moisturizes baby’s skin
  3. Some people also say that it helps in weight gain due to toning up of body
  4. A gentle massage on tummy & chest help in releasing out the gas & improves digestion for the infant as well.
  5. It also acts as a big relaxant for kids, as it eases out the muscles & help in a good sleep post facto.
  6. It is a great method of bonding between a mother & child, as it is said that during massaging, oxytocin hormones are released which gives a warm feeling to the baby.
  7. Further it is also said that massage is a great option for pre-mature kids ,as it stimulates vagus nerve (connecting brain with major body organs) resulting in improved circulation ,digestion ,right bowel movement . Also, it leads to better brain activity for pre-mature infants.

Requirements of Massage:

  1. A perfect baby oil
  2. Towel
  3. Nappy kit

Right strokes with right baby oil matters a lot. Now –a day’s one can get so many baby oils in te market but it plays an important role in identifying the correct oil & apply it. I have been using Dabur Lal tel & Olive oil alternately on my kid from past 9 months ,the reason being Lal tel is a genuine & proven oil ,best for the strong bones & Olive oil has immense goodness of olives which not just moisturizes the skin but also helps in reducing the stress ,stiffness if any ,hydrates the skin ,induces better hair growth ,& also helps in better sleep which is must for infants.

So when I came to knew of Dabur’s new Baby oil having the goodness of Olives & Almonds, I did apply & wanted to test it out on my baby with a strong believe in Dabur products.

  1. A sweet interesting packaging which prompted my kid to pounce on it even before I tried to unpack it 😉 SO once he was satisfied & played for next 10-12 minutes, I finally grabbed it from him, to have a look & apply the same on him. So the start seemed to be interesting enough!!
  2. Studying on the compositions which clearly define as Almonds & Olives ,helping out in perfect nourishment to the child & making it all the more soft due to presence of Almond oil (which acts as a moisturizer as well)
  3. Further, felt pleased to know that the goodness of these oils had been enriched with the absence of any Paraffins & artificial colors, Paraben, unlike many products which up sell with added colors & fragrance. For infants, purity should be the final touch!

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Application:

Once satisfied reading & making myself aware of the natural goodness of this oil, I was prompted to apply it on my baby. As such my kid loves getting massaged & I was eager to see him react when this goodness reached him all throughJ

Gently rubbing the oil between my palms, I started massage from the legs, starting slowly to being a little tight on thighs & calves & see here I saw him squeaking & smiling back 🙂

Moving upwards his chest & tummy making “I Love U” signs ,& using fingers to gently stroke in circles ,make him giggle & jump a lot ,but this is the way he enjoys. Similarly moving on hands & back I applied this oil with full faith & my kid loved the massage, which ended with a 2-3 minute session on his scalp which he loves the most.

Post this fabulous massage with perfect textured oil for a tight massage, some exercise made him sleepy & I felt pleased to see him sleep with a smiling face & relaxed body.

Conclusion : I found this oil perfect for people like me who love doing tight massage with not-so-light oils which are sold in the market .Along with this ,the freshness of almonds & Olives could be felt easily which act as “essential oils” for kids (although for us too..So even I applied it on me once ;))

Although this post is being written for Dabur Oil, but the goodness explained & experienced is very true ,as true as my baby & for the well being of all mothers like me. Do try out the product, which is quite reasonable & comes in 100Ml bottle. I’m sure you’ll be contented enough for a good tight massage.

I am writing about Dabur Baby Massage Oil with the goodness of olive and almond for the #FirstLove activity at BlogAdda.’

Happy with my oil:)

Happy with my oil:)

Hyderabadi Biryani -With secret spices!!

What ..How can you expect my son to help you out in kitchen. He is the king of home. He’ll just sit back ,relax & enjoy his life.. It’s you who ought to do your daily chores & keep your men happy!!

A distressed Sonia on hearing out these words went back to complete her routine life ,a life which starts with giving her better half, Kareem & in-laws a cup of bed tea ,cleaning the house ,preparing breakfast for them ,serving them hot breakfast & then it’s when she gets time to take breakfast herself. But not in a relaxed manner. It’s hardly 10-15 minutes time as here comes the voice.. Do remember you need to wash the clothes & then prepare sumptuous lunch for us on time!! It had just been 3 months of her marriage & she was completely exhausted .

Oh. What the hell. Am I a work Machine? Don’t I want some special time for myself? Am I not a human & don’t have the right to sit back & relax like Kareem? Why is this male dominated society so self centric? Why are these men not so poignant? Will a small helping hand at cleaning the dining table or washing the clothes not lower down her pressure & she may attribute more time towards her family, a quality time to look at some creativity she has within?

Half day passed on with such thoughts lingering her minds ,when she finally got an hour to relax .Switching between the TV channels restlessly ,she broke into laugh ,when her restless mind saw something unusual…A lovely narration of #Sharing the Load …Instantly she hopped ,pounced ,sat back & started hearing to the poetic lines —

My Better Half, is my best half,

He loves to make me merrier,

He loves encouraging my creativity,

He loves “my quality” time,

He loves my social indulgence,

He loves my poignancy,

He loves discussing matters with me,

& all this is feasible as,

[ “Soniya couldn’t resist…Tring Tring..Tring..Yes soniya, What’s up ?Kareem ,hear out something unusual on the TV & believe me your mind will be forced to accept the truth ,stand for it .But Soniya ,what is it all about? Kareem for just 15 minutes, quietly sit in a closed room & watch…Beep…Beep”]

He is there to give me morning tea, while I’m high time with my kitchen spree,

He is there to cut my veggie, while I’m hunting after our kidzee ,

He is there to clean the dust, while I’m cooking lunch at my best,

He is there to do the laundry, while I binge on the utensils cleaning & drying,

While I pounce on fresh veggies, he is there to catch on Fruits ,

Be it night ,be it day, Be it hot ,be it cold, Be it Rainy ,Be it Dry,

Be it alone, Be it in family,

He is there for me in every need, every pain..

Just to give my life a beautiful name… With #Sharetheload

[Huh!! What was Soniya pointing at? What a home it would have been, where all members do the work equally…How & why had I closed my eyes & mind towards her pain? I took so many vows with her. Why have I left her in a lurch? It had been very mean of me..I’ll apologize, for sure …]

“Tring Tring..Hey mom!! Give receiver to Soniya Pls..Kareem Baba, you are aware that at this time she is busy preparing snacks & tea for us, I cannot ask her to leave it & have a lovely gala time with you!

Mom, pleading..Just once…Here came Soniya with a hiding smile..Yes Kareem, I’m there to listen to voice, I’m there to listen to your Orders..

Soniya ,No…Pls I apologize ,I heard ,I thought ,I co-related & I felt your pain terribly..You will no longer face all this, as I’ll be there for you from today itself..Hung up!

Couldn’t believe her ears …Will have to wait & watch, just then door bell rang.Kareem..So early ..Yes dear, I’m there to cook special Hyderabadi Biryani for you today…”[And the secret Spices were that of Love ,Care & respect for Soniya]

Tears fell from her eyes ,with a heavy heart ,Kareem & Soniya hugged each other & again vowed for a new start!

From that day till today ,Kareem has held Soniya’s hand to make their struggling house a beautiful home ,to part away their miserable lives with enchanting ways ,they watch movie every week & dance together every night !

Such a bliss has their life become ,Soniya’s Treasure Hunt “Smile” has become an all time “Shine”. Every minute is a rejoicing moment whether they are working separately or together!!

Well ,It would have had been such a lovely family ,if all Indians would have come out of the mental blocks & recommended the #ShareTheLoad initiative. But still behind in the society in many towns & cities ,many such Soniya’s reside ,for whom this is a brilliant initiative taken by Ariel.

Me, a working mother living in a nuclear family has seen ample of challenges with respect to prioritizing house chores or Managing office work ,there has been many moments wherein you have in-laws & relatives coming over to spend a quality time & then it becomes a task to manage but with support ,its so easy to manage!

Well, every female including Soniya deserves a partner/household who is there to share her load physically as well as emotionally. With the changing times, when women is multi-tasking, when she has started ruling corporate life, there has to be an environment of equality within the household, be it a nuclear or a joint family.

My better half #SharetheLoad :)

My better half #SharetheLoad 🙂

Sharing the load is not just between a husband & wife ,rather it is between a family ,every member of the family ,It is the very beginning for the foundation of a happy home ,a basic seed which grows into the tree of care ,love & mutual respect .Be it Joint or Nuclear family ,all basic chores as Cleaning ,washing ,grocery ,Kids need to be divided amongst the couples/members basis the time & life style.

All these acts need to be mutually decided & carried on with a consistent “SMILE” which would ease up the load of life & make it more enjoying!!Such a house would definitely be called a “Paradise on earth” ,wherein the space is occupied by “Love” , “care” , “Compassion” & is devoid of “Rude” , “Jealousy”, “Self Centric” !! Let’s enliven our HOMES:)

“I am writing for the #ShareTheLoad activity at BlogAdda.com in association with Ariel.”

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