My Memoir

Everyone in this world need love ,an unconditional love be it from Spouse or Parents or Siblings or close friends ,as this love is the panorama which provides immense strength ,faith in ourselves ,it acts as a booster dose to move ahead in life post failures or agonies ,it is the only refresher which motivates one to take the risk ,go ahead & capture the dreams sought after .

However strong one may be ,there is always an emotional side of a person ,which always need expression in some form or the other ,which might be in the form of immense care or it could be just 5 minutes of togetherness which fills life with radiance. Being an ambitious girl with respect to studies & career & post that marriage has posed many challenges in front of me ,there were many instances in my life wherein my parents & my friends ushered a new light ,a new hope in my life ,looking at the negative circumstances with optimism ,fighting against the odds & moving ahead in life. For me, Love & support from them has always been the riding factor of life.

With such a beautiful topic in hand relating challenges with optimism, I would love to narrate one of the incident during the fundamental & the most decisive year in my education life. With high hopes & dreams to have a tag of “Dr.” ,I was deeply & madly engrossed in my preparation of entrance for MBBS .I has given my complete 1 year for the preparation ,with average of 18 hours of study daily to excel & ensure my parent’s dream come true. Such had been the condition, that my house lady pitied me upon, & took special care of me in all terms, be it food, or freshness or love or any of my requisite. Seeing me so much engrossed in my dreams, she herself made a motive to be my endearing support & help me out in all possible manners. From morning till night ,she was there besides me & acted like a second mother to me(in the absence of my mom with me ,as I was in another town to take up the tutorials).She used to check me out in the night ,& even sometimes made me sleep in her lap. Such was her radiance that her one smile made me calm & ushered optimism in me. Days & months passed by ,we had filled up some 3 entrance test ,3 best in India ,but the seats in comparison to the applications has always been a challenge for the top tier institutes but I had a firm confidence in me up clearing the entrances for top notch ones.

The day came to write up the exams, with folded hands, my time either went to pray to God or to just revise my hardwork, & exams did go well &I was desperate to see the outcome of my work. Post writing up my exams, I had moved back to my home, to be with my family & have some quality time. But the phase between writing exams & announcement of the results always kept on hounding me & aggravated my feelings on seeing the frequent discussion about it at home. It was the worst phase ,neither could I laugh loudly nor could I be as I was …For me ,it was just the result awaited which would decide upon my fate.

One month later ,results announced ,1st test I was 4th Waiting ,2nd Test I was 10th & 3rd I did not clear all together ..So shattered I was …No one could guarantee waiting clearance, my mind stopped working, I was into tears, where did I lose? Where could have I been negligent ,How did I miss the most precious year of my life ,How come I not make my parents feel proud , I could not fulfill their dreams?So many How’s & why’s pondered me over..It felt I would lose my mental balance, but suddenly amidst all this, the presence of someone changed my thoughts. My house lady had come over the next day to be with me, on knowing of the result. As I saw her, I jumped & hugged her so tightly & cried like hell..She let me cry..She heard me wailing..She heard all complaints towards God.. & Just narrated one line.. Baba ,you’ve not lost anything ,you’ve not lost me ,you’ve not lost love of your parents ,You’ve not lost love of your friends ,then why to act as a loser? See the love all have in their eyes, see the pain when you are in pain, Is it not sufficient, you will have more chances to succeed in life, give it another chance .Yes, her beautiful words acted as a pacifier to me & I controlled & decided to give myself another chance. But ,I wanted to move away from medical field (as I had so many bad memories of them) ,I consulted ,graduated in Biotechnology from Top Institute in India ,bagged a Gold Medal in my Graduation as well as Post Graduation & today I stand firm a, successful & ambitious professional ,a successful home maker & a mother to 7 month old kid.

Yes life teaches one a lot & mostly few people, their love & their simple guidance pour optimism in life.

For me, my house lady, Prerna aunty was & is everything to me, just like her name!

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Blissful Journey!!

Motherhood is an amazing feeling, which imbibes in itself an emotion of love, care, merriment, compassion. But the road to motherhood is not an easy path, along with lovely sentiments, it does brings struggle towards the responsibilities, pouts of pain on hearing the cries, an unknown fear towards the future of child and many more. But not just the challenges begin post bringing the little baby in this world, but for a female, for a working female, the challenges begin much before.

As the nuclear family culture is on rise & joint family culture is nearly eroding, the decision to plan a baby for a working woman is the most difficult task .A female has to compromise on her career, on her ambition & opt for the family route. Similar was my situation some 1 year back ,the questions of continuation of my professional life hounded me day night .None of my family members would be with us for sure & it was just me who had to manage the little child & professional work load. The questions as –Would any of my family be there to support my desire of working post baby? Am I ready to take the responsibility of entering into the phase of motherhood? Can I nurture the child with full justice? My ambition towards my career will anytime be an impediment to this decision, whether it’s taken today or later on. But despite these questions ,one day this decision had to be taken, so, firmly the decision was taken & I welcomed my beautiful child some 7 months back.

My desire to continue with the profession was somewhere hidden for the fear of getting no support from the family for the first 3 months. I just tried thinking day night, but could not arrive at any solution to convince my family. Rather, looking at the strong sense of my in-laws to resign as soon as possible , was too hard for me to digest. How could I leave my career of 6 years behind? Why did I study so hard to have glorious academics & then have a successful career? It was not made for this day, a day that my child would be brought into this world, I would have to quit my other life. No, who so ever may protest, I had to be very firm on my mind-set & find some solution to cater to my ambitions, along with my child.

So the first step I took was to convince my husband ,& to the most pleasant surprise ,he was with me ,he lend me full support not to put a question mark on my career. This gave me immense strength & a confidence to manage up both the responsibilities with 100% justice. The very next day I decided to have a discussion with my management & started for my office.

The feeling of landing up at work place was so pleasant, so warm, a new hope of positivity ushered me.

Not just my husband ,my management was there with me ,so considerate & so understanding .They did gave me a chance to prove myself ,but being a new mom in a nuclear family ,I was allowed to initiate half day work from home. That was the biggest gift my management could have given me. Happily, I arranged for my maid to be with my kid for 4 hours during which I was away from home. For some 15 days I trained my maid on all the basics (although she was experienced) ,desires & naughtiness of my kid .I did gave out some time for my kid to get accustomed to the caretaker for few hours before joining the office. Things turned out very well, it has been 3 months that I have been working in this manner.

I’m with my kid from morning, prepare his meals daily (as he is in his weaning phase), start for the office & come back in 4 hours. Then it’s me, my kid & yes office work in between as & when I get time.

So really GOD is great, for every moment, for every desire he is there along with us .Anything tried deeply from the bottom of heart is bound to work sooner or later.

This was a new life for me, a life which I fought from the elders to live ,a life which I want every working female to understand that to begin a family should never be an obstacle to the hardly built up career. Not necessary one might get the support of management & husband the way I got, but it was my resolution to keep the head high. Even in the adverse situations, one can always be an entrepreneur & design their lives along a new path.

This phase has actually been blissful for me, my kid & my profession.

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The Lost Journey…Enchanting passions

A dream doesn’t becomes reality through magic ,it takes sweat ,determination & hardwork !! Colin Powell

Dreams ,Hopes ,aspirations ,wishes, vision ,all play an important role not just in our lives but also act as the biggest mentor to achieve & accomplish these dreams. Who haven’t thought of getting on road on Rolls Royce or going to Mars ,well many of us would have wished to but yes we all live in a world which is full of constraints ,which is full of ambiguity towards life .

Every step marched ahead needs to be carefully looked into with the responsibility of someone dependent on you, with the accountability of your deeds towards your family. Sometimes ,a dream gets vanished for the sake of happiness of family ,sometimes it gets loaded with so many other aspirations that the road for its completion is almost lost ,or sometimes it just sits awaiting for the right moment (which might last from few days to few years).

Whatever might be the reasons ,in this hustle bustle of our lives ,with the cultural values we have been pinned into ,many a time dreams entangle itself & remain in our dreams only . It takes guts ,challenge , a bold spirit to deviate from the destined path & let your dreams come true ,after all we have the freedom to see ,nourish & cherish those lively dream of ours:)

Same is the story of me ,an Indian girl ,a girl brought up in a modern family ,very naughty, jovial ,lively ,full of happiness, but lost somewhere in the path of success ,a path to become pride of her parents ,a path to fulfil their dreams & to make them happy ,& yes she succeeded in this resolution. My excel & numerous Gold medals in higher studies brought accolades to them ,they were being congratulated upon every step I took forward & excelled. But, amongst this tiff of my heart & mind, I almost lost everything, every small dream I had ,be it from plucking my favorite daisies ,to roam around every week & explore new places ,to visit the world some day ,laugh with the nomads ,fight against anti -female protagonists ,to enlighten the world with a single word “Humanity” !

Well ,all these seemed a beautiful lane passed through ,as I entered into the world full of responsibilities ,a new world ,a new family post marriage. But ,my little world ,my husband ensured that I live every dream of mine ,with the same ecstasy ,same naiveness which I had before & slowly I began my journey to enlighten myself. Definitely ,all of my dreams ,some weird ,some vague to start up ,have not been given a momentum to ,but yes my journey to fulfill my lost ambition has definitely begun!

This topic of “Befikar Umar bhar”,actually rolled out my thoughts in a reel ,trying to again see my weirdest of the dreams to come true ,if I were actually “befikar” ,If I had just me in my life (& no-one dependent or with no responsibility towards others) ,so here goes my 5 cravings from my life :

1. A journey to Space -Since kid ,I was so curious to explore the kids ,staring into the dark night ,with those starry affairs ,thinking of the Milky way , plotting out planets(Mars ,Jupiter,venus) & stars ,constellations ,Big dipper & so many other things. This galaxy has always fascinated me & till date,I dream of foraying into space someday .Dunno the probability of returning back or the state of affairs there but still this is the biggest dream I want to nourish

2. Swim & Cross English Channel :One of the most iconic Open water Swim ,but currently one of the most challenging swim ,with the water temperatures varying between 15-18 degrees ,harsh air temperatures, when you get to know that it is more warm in water than outside,when you know that even 3-min of feed per hour can make you a target of those immense tides against youJ But yes ,some day ,I’m bound to cross it braving the adverse factors.

3.Marathon on North Pole : Well sounding too shivery ,but yes I would love to conquer the world with this coldest Marathon ,amongst that Icy world ,too close with those beautiful creatures on the snow:)

4.Own a part of Bora Bora island in my name – Well that’s where I need ample of Pocket money;) ,Let my networth increase & allow me some funding ,I’m gonna do it even when I’m 80;)

5.Finally to be an Entrepreneur ,registering my company “Adventure Locks & Flocks” ,a company to cater to all Adventures of life ,ranging from the simpler ones to the most weird ones .

Although I need to mention my five befikar dreams but my list goes long ,as I see a new dream every day ..I love dreams ,to be in dreams ,to think of making them a success & agreeing to the Quote “ The future belongs to them ,who believe in the beauty of their Dreams .. Eleanor Roosevelt”

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Cupid…Love…Electrifying tenderness!!

Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind, And therefore is winged Cupid painted blind” William Shakespeare

Love knows no boundaries; Love knows no limits.. For me ,Love is the synonym of limitless craziness!!

Well! The fragrance of Love, Valentine, Crush, Romance ,Rosy feeling, Happiness smells so soothing. Wow! This defines a fantasy world in everyone’s life which is sure to sparkle our eyes & create a sense of ecstasy & sensational merriment in our lives.

                                       Here goes the Cupid Play..

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Hey gal, how long you gonna just keep those beautiful tender feelings within you..I don’t like bondages..Set me free..Express me out ..Don’t be too late..

   Ah Dear Cupid! I agree, my heart is thumping heavily ,my hormones are gushing ,My eyes are sparkling ,My lips are smiling ,My mind is strolling in the lanes of memoirs, Cupid ,I’m deeply in love…You are such a breathtaking emotion ,so pure ,so live ,you are a bliss ..

Oh yes ,I’am ,I elate your life ,but render the feelings to better half ,What are you waiting for?

  Nothing my angel..Let my proposal have a base of craziness, Flavor of madness, essence of amusement, with the topping of overflowing extra cheesy Love..I’m in search of such proposal to ensure it as the most prized moment of our lives!

Come !Let me go Wild! Let me show you the path of wildness …the path of Electrifying Love!!

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So, the word Love entered in my life some years ago,a slow migration from tuition mates to friendship to love. It all started with great sense of admiration wrt studies, solving those mind boggling Physics questionnaires & those Organic chemistry equations .Very slowly these equations started weaving in my life , me considering “My to be love” as a “Fire Brigadier” to all dilemma’s of my life be it Personal & professional ,counting on him for all small mature suggestions in every sphere of my life .Living in different cities never played an evil sport & the cupid started playing the “clever game” ,the more we played ,the closer we got.

Some 2 years passed by posing the relation as of friend but somewhere at the bottom,special feelings had started crawling ,finding moments by hook or crook, to spend some precious time together ,laughing on silly jokes , rejoicing counter choices ,huge impressive shopping sprees .But ,the brick had to crack one day ,those feelings highly nurtured had to be spoken of one day. Cupid is playing games on both sides ..yes ,it seems love is flourishing ,& both of us are just waiting for a perfect moment to relay those precious ,valuable emotions to one another .

The creative mind began its work …sitting on knees to propose the guy ? Create a podcast proposal & upload in the mobile? Prepare a hamper of goodies with a sticky note of “I love U” in it? Call up for a Romantic dinner & propose by note in champagne bottle?? No, No ,No ,none of these struck my chords with the same zeal which I felt inside on having his first look. Something wackier, more crazy had to be worked upon!
Hey Cupid..Let’s have a KINGLY Proposal… in the mid of Jungle with those majestic lions? Guess that would be a thought of immense wilderness & no corner of mind can ever struggle to forget!

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So this would be a definitive part of my sojourn in our planned “Friends group trip” at the very much Beach City, The exotic Mauritius, Ile Maurice”:)

Boarding the flight, enjoying with some 10 friends,we landed to have a splendid retreat on the Mother of beaches & my bombshell day with stupendous planning woke up;)

The morning would witness something very different, the rays of sun amidst those clouds, will bring in a Red rose & a card stating “Thanks for being in my life” !! That’s definitely gonna create a buzz & expectation of more surprises 🙂

I did steal his Digi camera & headed straight to his favorite spot “Majestic Beach besides the blue green waters” carrying the posters of words as “ Do you Love me? Will you be the special angel of my life” ,A video of them holding each one of the poster in different pose with just my hand & those posters to be filmed by my friend saved in his Camera ..So that would have amuse him all the more…God, would love to capture his expressions, No..It has to be a surprise ,I’ll not be close to him:)

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Our Initials:)

 

Then comes my entry for the KINGLY Proposal ,a twin ticket , booked just for us two (under the perception that none of the other friends can accompany with the fear of Wild), at the “Casella Nature Park “ ,to have a 45 minutes’ walk with the Lions & my ultimate proposal to him!

Well ,the Idea itself enthralled me but the entry in the park questioned my instincts & panic struck me when we were asked to sign up the undertaking form (of our lives) ,with lean sticks as the lone saviors. Literally shock waves traversed throughout my body. Here came,2 guides , to pass upon the directives (Don’t look directly into Lion’s eyes ,Don’t tease or shout ,or make sudden noises). God all these verdicts seemed to be passing through my head, as the announcement came of 2 new Members coming out of the protected area to Join us & take us for a walk. 1-2-3 & here I saw two huge Lions coming out & marching straight towards us ,What a moment that was ,hearts beating in sync (more than 200 beats) ,body shivering & turning pale ,each trying to hide behind another, but at the same moment this fabulous scene made us fall in love with the Majestic beasts & in next 5 minutes ,I resumed my senses & CUPID became strong to ensure my Wildness comes true!

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Fear cum crazy Love

 

Next 20 minutes passed, progressing in deep jungle ,our VVIP’s climbing the rocks ,playing in the field ,trying to get hold of the bait ,we walking besides them ,touching their manes ,gracious tails one by one ,but (as planned) to my mate’s utter surprise, he found that only one of the lion was ahead of him & the troop & he was at the last & could not see me besides him. As soon as he turned, he saw another lion just behind him & me behind the lion so the trail followed as …Complete troop..My soul mate..Another lion & then at the last Me,The bold me 🙂 ,Sitting on my knees ,holding a rose hidden in my pocket ,with eyes full of tears ,of love & fear together ,A fearful smile on my face ,a Hope of love & life in my heart ,& here came my voice trembling Out… I’m madly in LoVE with You sweet heart! Do you love me ? The moment was a bliss ,the lion in mid of us walked past through ,ahead & he could just not believe this impromptu declaration of my Love in the midst of this fearful walk .So for 2 minutes ,it was just both of us ,we ran in each other’s arms ,very silently , very peacefully hugged one another ,reciprocated our love & rest 10 minutes of the walk became simply majestic ,with my majestic better half & those majestic lions!

My Hands wanna you..

My feet wanna run to catch you..

My Mind wanna bind in your thoughts..

& My heart wanna pop out to say..I Love you!!

I may not be so close to you but I wanna get hugged in your memories, to feel you, to sense you, to smell you, to desperately love you!!

Indeed ,I was acknowledged for my act of gallantry ,for the act of LOVE among adventure ,for me ,his love was the best gift of GOD .

Hey Cupid ,you aimed in the centre ,Guess you would be the happiest …You made an electrifying debut Indeed!!

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Dil Se re…!!!

Valentine, Crush ,Love ,Romance ,Rosy feeling, Happiness. … Wow! This defines a fantasy world in everyone’s life which is sure to sparkle our eyes & create a sense of ecstasy in our lives.

SO, the word Love entered in my life some years ago,a slow migration from tuition mates to friendship to love. It all started with great sense of admiration wrt studies, solving those mind boggling Physics questionnaires & those Organic chemistry equations .Very slowly these equations started weaving in my life , me considering “My to be love” as a “Fire Brigadier” to all dilemmas of my life be it Personal & professional ,counting on him for all small mature suggestions in every sphere of my life .Living in different cities never played an evil sport & the cupid started playing the “clever game” ,the more we played ,the closer we got —As mentioned by Closeup J .

Some 2 years passed by posing the relation as of Friend but somewhere at the bottom, special feelings had started crawling ,finding moments by hook or crook, to spend some precious time together ,laughing on silly jokes , rejoicing counter choices ,huge impressive shopping sprees .But ,the brick had to crack one day ,those feelings highly nurtured had to be spoken of one day! But that was pretty uncertain if the same rhythmical feeling had been propped up on the other side, or was it just friendship or nothing , but just infatuation??

Being a management graduate ,I have more beliefs in graphs & PPT’s ,pulling me into a Love –friendship analysis ,a Multiple choice questionnaire of some 20 problems & me trying to answer them from 2 different angles ,one as a friend & one as a lover!! & the analysis is perfect & more happier..Cupid is playing games on both sides.. yes ,it seems love is flourishing ,& both of us are just waiting for a perfect moment to relay those precious ,valuable emotions to one another. But, how could that be a simple exchange of few words? This had to be special, something that would be memorable for life time, and something that would just express the quantum of Love which was flowing throughout me!

SO the creative mind began its work …sitting on knees to propose the guy ? Create a podcast proposal & upload in the mobile? Prepare a hamper of goodies with a sticky note of “I love U” in it? Call up for a Romantic dinner & propose by note in champagne bottle?? No,No ,No ,none of these struck my chords with the same zeal which I felt inside on having his first look. Something more creative had to be worked upon!

So, here comes the planning, a complete day,a proposal plan on the V-Day , since morning to evening, a 24 hr plan to relay my feelings ,to make him feel special & show the intensity of my love!

The morning will witness something very different, the rays of sun will bring sunshine in our life, The morning green tea will have a Red rose & a card stating “Thanks for being in my life” !! That’s definitely gonna create a buzz & expectation of more surprises J

I’m gonna Steal his Digi camera & head straight to his favorite spot “Majestic Fort” carrying the posters of several words as “Do you Love me? Will you be the special angel of my life” ,A video of them holding each one in different pose with just my hand & those posters to be filmed by my friend & the keep it back in his laptop bag ..SO that would amuse him all the more…God, would love to capture his expressions, No. .It has to be a surprise, I’ll not be close to himJ

Then would be a hand -made sheet letter ,a letter stating his significance in my life ,why he means so much to me ,why I wish him to be my part in every corner of my life ,why I just want HIM!! A letter placed in his Amirah, which would be bound to be opened by noon;)

The next on plate ,In the eve something fascinating ,Turn off the lights of his apartment & the path leading to it ,lightening it with the trail of candles forming the boundary of something special baked by me ,A chocolate strawberry cake with the wafer quoting ,DO you love me?& heart shaped cookies, mentioning my love  for him! That would be scintillating, won’t it be? Every moment he would be wishing for the next round of sweet surprise, expecting a never ending day ,I guess so;)

Well , shouldn’t a small Invitation card be attached inviting him for the special gala dinner party hosted by me @ one of his favorite cafe? Yeah, that would work  ,so while penning down ,I wish to make a small invitation card with “ Meet you My Love @ Hotel ,would love to wait & get your glimpse at 8:00Pm”

Butterflies in my stomach, feeling myself super-duper excited, thrilled to propose him face to face ,energized to give him my best look. .Amongst, this entire clock will hit 8PM & yes I’ll be well ahead of time.

Hopefully ,No nervousness would cloud ,the round table with silver white chairs ,decorated with red roses ,red & pink rose bouquet awaiting Someone special ,His arrival to be marked by hotel staff receiving him ,presenting him with a ”Collage & a small pictorial representation” , reflecting the highlights from the time jab we met ,the first glimpse of a serious studious guy ,to the mentor ,to the problem solver ,to the most amazing friend ,& now Love of my life ,& I would be there behind him ,enjoying every moment he looks at the video & for the first time in day to smell him ,to smell his feelings ,his love! Can’t I pre-pone V-day? I’m high on my tunes, on my plan 😉

So the end of video will embark me bending on the knees & offering him a rose & propose him & hear a YES to get his warm hug!!

Plans disclosed till now, Post that, my experience will be shared later 😉

{Although these plans were kindling up me from some time, this blog has been written for Indiblogger in association with Closeup for the Happy Hour  -Cupid Games 2015J }

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I’m MOM -Master of Multitasking: My Journey from Or to And

 My Journey from “Or to And”

There cannot be true democracy unless women’s voices are heard. There cannot be true democracy unless women are given the opportunity to take responsibility for their own lives” – Hillary Rodham Clinton

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Is women born to make sacrifices, to forgo her plans of life initially for the happiness of her parents, then for Husband & In laws & then for her Kids?
But the question comes as to Why only Women?? It has more to do with the Indian culture, the society we live in & the values in which we have been brought up ,the society which still assumes woman handling the sole responsibility of taking care of home & her family ,of nurturing the child ,but it has never ever thought of the working woman looking after home & nurturing the child .

Men ,if you ever wanna know what a woman’s mind feels like, imagine a browser with 2857 tabs open all the time ! She is multi-tasking!

Why are we assumed to perform only one task at a time ,Is it just an extension to the older times when women were confined to homes & men were treated as bread earners ?Why even when researches dominate that women are Multi tasker’s, as a result of their better planning & strategies ,our families still constrain us to go for the option of “OR” & most of the times that OR ,as per the family is opined towards betterment of family ,but to ask us ,it actually dwindles away the hopes & ambition of a women .A woman can easily manage a Lion’s share of household & childcare chores ,along with the sense of full or part time work ,which is because we tend to equate priorities ,organize our responsibilities& don’t just jump into. Studies say that “women might possess higher level of cognitive control than men wrt planning, monitoring and inhibiting behaviour”.

Well I believe ,that most of the Indian women might have faced these challenges in their lives & post resentment ,One would have fallen prey to family wishes discarding self inner feelings to pose as an idealistic Daughter or Wife or Mother. Bust ,just ask yourself ,are you so weak that to explore & nurture your ideas ,your ambition ,you need to fall prey to those emotional stings? We, The women have the qualities to dissuade, to convince our families & we are the best force to prove that we alone can handle & justify numerous tasks with 100% efficiency & competency.

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Well ,like all I have also faced few instances wherein I was de-motivated (on the name of justice to role)& forced to opt for single role in the family ,but I was not the one to let my ambition pass away that soon ..I went ,I ran & caught them ,savoured the fruits of my ambition & corroborated my success not by judging the best responsibility done ,but by exemplifying myself as an “Epitome of Modern day Women ,a confident women ,who can manage her numerous roles hand in hand & that too with utmost ecstasy & excellence”.

So it all began ,(post 3 years of marriage)with elderly pressure flowing in on high, to expand the family ,but as these days ,wherein both the partners are working ,ambitious about their career & growth in life ,this tricky situation calls for a genuine delay & takes a toll on one ,especially on the feminine part of the wheel…But yes ,few questions kept pondering me then ,How long will I delay it? One day I’ll have to enter Motherhood & sensing a strong signal of taking a sabbatical from work to be a care taker. Would any of my family be there to support my desire of working post baby? Am I ready to take the responsibility of entering into the phase of motherhood? Can I nurture the child with full justice? My ambition towards my career will anytime be an impediment to this decision, whether it’s taken today or later on.
All these questions hovered around my mind, & after a huge bewilderment ,I was firm…My decision was yes ,I’ll enter into the phase ,let me take the life as it comes ,I’m not that weak to surrender my passion ,my charm. There needs to be 200% justice to both the objectives of Motherhood as well as of the Profession, the profession which gives you everything, from leading a desired lifestyle to the social significance & Motherhood ,which gives you the immense pleasure of life.

As was expected ,with the happiness ushering out of the little innocent tender baby ,it was at the back of the minds of my family ,to define & restrict me to only one role ,that of motherhood. & one day over the discussion ,this decision was enforced on me to quit my Profession & be a good Homemaker & caretaker of my kid ,none bothering to question my aspirations ,none hoping to find some mid solution to my ambition ,instead I was filled with so much of scepticism ,that if I opted for Job this time ,It would have filled me with deep guilt & would have proved that I could not be a good mother & been fair with my little kid. In their thoughts, The duty of a mother is only to care & up-bring her child.

Days & weeks passed by ,with the same thought pondering me ,but as my leaves came to an end ,I wanted to face this world booming with self confidence & make a new start by handling my profession as well as enjoying motherhood..

Our female leaders have all emerged out of these situations & this is the moment wherein a women needs to be balanced emotionally as well as intellectually! If Arundhati Bhattacharya ,Chanda Kochar , Kristin Armstrong could have done it few years back ,why can’t I? They have been my role models & I have to earn my name for the uphill tasks I’ve dealt in.

Few battles are worth fighting ,so, pretty decisive of not calling it a quit & enter into sabbatical, I went for a discussion with my management to impart some flexibility & I was so very thrilled on the first few words of my Manager ,A senior Vice president of the organization “ We feel women can handle multi-dimensional things & all at the same moment ,we believe that you are capable of doing justice to both the arduous professions & we ensure to be completely flexible & lend out support to fulfil both the chores” ! What else God! These words radiated a new Joy ,new shine & acted as morale booster to be proud of my decision to join back some 15 days later.

Well ,there was no looking back ,I drove swiftly back to my home to share my happiness with my husband & to my belief ,my husband stood out with me ,embracing my thoughts ..What a respite that was! Suddenly winds seemed to be blowing from other end ,calming me down ,inducing productive thoughts ,ushering a new ray of cheerfulness around me. Quickly entered into the mode of employing a fulltime helper (known to me for past 2 years),training her to feed my baby ,sing lullabies , to make him sleep, play with him, during few 3-4 hours when I would be at my office .Observing her for a week gave a thumbs up ,as my darling gelled with the good caretaker. Belief was the biggest factor ,in the absence of any family member ,keeping the kid alone with the helper even for an hour was tedious ,but yes our mutual faith made it happen!

Preparations for my Day1 at office began ,rescheduling all the work timelines ,prioritizing them ,making my baby comfortable ,feeding &massaging him ,cooking lunch was what I was supposed to do before my day started at office & I did complete all the tasks in hand on time ,with very much the same passion& warmth as it was earlier! Returning from office demanded my baby’s bathing ,changing ,feeding ,playing ,to be his mini Joker , more kiddish & big chatterbox, singing all self –formed lullabies ,talking all non sense ,making silly faces & laughing from nowhere ,just to see smile & happiness on his face, sharing all these intimate moments with him to show my love ,compassion & care for him.(& yes making presentations ,data mining, in between for the office work)
Day 1 was super anxious ,meeting all the colleagues ,answering their queries ,it was a wonderful re-union I felt !It was also an inspiring moment for 2 of my female colleagues who were expecting in some time(& with the same circumstances of family apprehensions ,nuclear family stand) ,this feeling to motivate them ,to steer them towards their sense of independence became my aspiration ,I yearning for them to not chose “OR” but be a part of “AND” fraternity & celebrate the happiness of life!
It’s been some 3-3.5 months now ,though things have become pretty hectic but it has not drained me .A look at my life ,my baby de-stresses me out completely & I’ve discovered a new energy in my working styles. I can proudly say that I’m giving my 100% to both my love (Motherhood & profession) & none of my responsibility stands out neglected or undermined. My aspiration to touch pinnacles in my career, along with blessing my kid with all “Sanskaras” ,all support to let him grow into a confident,responsible young man remain intact!
Well ,on a lighter note ,I’m not just managing 2 biggest tasks hand in hand…But yes my first passion ,my first love (before my profession & kid came into my life) –my write ups in the form of Blogs ,keep kindling me up & spreaden the aura of radiance around me..

So I’m a happy Manager ,An ecstatic Mother ,A thrilled Blogger ,A magnificent Home maker & A Contented Human Being!

Hats off to the modern women!! Welcome us & help us inspire many more!

This post is a part of #UseYourAnd activity at BlogAdda in association with Gillette Venus“.

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“Mother of beaches” :::Land of Mauritius!! Part (2/2)

Continuing from Part I —-Day 2 & day 3

Day 2: Encountered a calm serene drizzy morning, clouds hiding the sun in their monopoly. Breakfast followed a trip to the “Ship Model factory”, great artifacts by the locals ,perfect place to get souvenirs from!
A touch on the Volcanic site did not create any volcano of the emotions ,as the site had been redundant & was alive 7000 years back ,but now it was completely covered with huge trees & a small stream flowing through.
Amazingly ,we did see Alexandra waterfalls but “Ganga Talao” encompassing Brilliantly carved stupendous huge Bronze statue of Lord Shiva, built In by Indian craftsmen, gave us a sense of pride to be an Indian. But the next trip to fascinating “Seven colored earth” was attention grabbing. One place with sand of 7 identifiable different colors ,due to natural sedimentation & salt depositions was remarkable. Even  if these sands are washed away by the rains, due to natural processes ,these colorful strata’s are re-created ,amazing mother earth!
Lets figure out seven diff colors —
This day was a short trip but we decided to ensure Fun filled water activities. Reaching Hotel was soon marked by big rounds of kayaking, Windsurfing ,Pedallo ,all from our very own Hotel. Kayaking ,deep In the sea was such a leisure ,slow moving raft ,waves coming nearby & trying to pull us apart ,picturesque mountains on one end & infinite sea on the other end ,we in the mid ,deeply in love with the nature with one another ,a feeling to never ever come out from this leisure.
A warm meeting by 2 Indian couples made this day more enchanting ,by playing some Beach Badminton & Volley ball by the Males of our group .Huge round of gossips ,laughter’s , play ,beach side night walk made our day to the fullest!
Next day had to be the most thrilling one, with day full of escapades & the most looked for day of the trip.
Day 3: Early morning bags were packed with extra clothing, accessories to start trip to Ilex Island.
So the whole bouquet of interesting pursuits-
Parasailing ,Under sea walking, Bumpy Tube ride  waterfalls created a hullabaloo amongst us!
It all started with Speed jet picking us from the beach to the “Platform” in the sea to initiate the “Under water walk”.Being a non swimmer ,the turbulence of water & the fear of survival under the water shook me hard ,but it had to be done to create my memories.
The preparedness was marked with a belt with the strong weights put around my waist ,special footwears ,big heavy oxygen mask covering my head & face ,special gesture language to be used under the water in case of any emergency or requisites ,God ,all this was like a dream unnerving me throughout!
1-2-3 …splash & yes there I was inside the sea ,4 more coming inside tied to me one by one ,OMG I was not even able to stand & I had to walk  ,this took lil time to understand the underwater moves but it became an auto function soon, once we were surrounded by colorful corals ,beautiful yellow ,blue fishes  swimming around us & we giving small bread pieces to those beautiful free living creatures. Amazed to see huge corals ,all of different shapes for the first time in life ! Simply Incredible tour of the under sea life ,with a feeling to explore it more ,our new expedition awaited us for the next.
The most hilarious “Tube Ride”,a banana Tube (capacity of 4 people),tied with the speed jet boat ,was all set to give us the most amazing twists & turns. Gosh !This was the most horrific yet hilarious bumpy & speedy ride ,which made us scream ,laugh & cry all at the same moment as the tube took abrupt twists & turns ,whirling at such high speed that we took this ride by aghast!!  A must do adventure to get an unnerving experience with all emotions in one go!
Expressions say it all
Then awaited the next round of our escapades ,a travel via speed boat to another platform amidst the mesmerizing ocean surrounding us…A platform for the sky ride “Parasailing”, A parachute awaiting to bring forth an aerial world.
So we both tied up from our legs holding the strings of parachute set in a specific pose ,marked our readiness to fly high in the skies..1 minute more & yes it went up ,up & more up ,more high in the deep blue sky.
Amazing ,no word could’v explained that moment ,eyes wide opened ,peeping the surroundings ,across the vast ocean down ,our friends ,waving at us. Peeping down just shivered me ,as we sensed highness from the ocean. For next 12 minutes ,we enjoyed our aerial survey  every bit of it ,when the time stopped & we slowly & steadily took our swift flight back to the Platform .
All these fabulous events had sparked hunger sensation & this took us to “Masala Restraunt”aside the beach ,an altogether marvelous ambience in the lap of nature ,designed in the form of Huts ,with each family allotted a single Hut .To our utter surprise ,we just relished finding “Indian thali & Biryani” on the menu ,& it just rejuvenated our energy back. Enjoyed sun bath for next one hr @the scintillating beach of Ilex ,walking ,collecting beautiful colored sea shells & Corals from the shore.
Reached our hotel in the evening ,with deep craving for good tight sleep, as more escapades were approaching in the next 2 days.